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abit | 0 | 5,207,857,249,497 | 25% | ||
andyjim | 0 | 510,509,595 | 100% | ||
magicmonk | 0 | 1,502,831,246,982 | 50% | ||
laoyao | 0 | 15,126,393,886 | 30% | ||
midnightoil | 0 | 52,096,985,580 | 30% | ||
xiaohui | 0 | 4,757,462,235 | 30% | ||
oflyhigh | 0 | 1,349,557,296,298 | 30% | ||
rivalhw | 0 | 1,479,654,561,148 | 100% | ||
helene | 0 | 388,618,587,987 | 30% | ||
ethansteem | 0 | 16,455,366,415 | 30% | ||
tumutanzi | 0 | 1,593,828,660 | 45% | ||
blackbunny | 0 | 20,383,299,784 | 30% | ||
bxt | 0 | 96,750,505,474 | 30% | ||
lingfei | 0 | 27,534,593,409 | 30% | ||
coldhair | 0 | 504,547,986 | 45% | ||
aleister | 0 | 3,717,684,554 | 7% | ||
exec | 0 | 79,348,502,870 | 30% | ||
shenchensucc | 0 | 974,903,659 | 27% | ||
joeyarnoldvn | 0 | 574,771,897 | 1.68% | ||
susanli3769 | 0 | 542,635,112,954 | 100% | ||
catwomanteresa | 0 | 135,158,868,291 | 30% | ||
liangfengyouren | 0 | 5,508,951,983 | 80% | ||
idx | 0 | 6,581,577,704 | 30% | ||
mangoanddaddy | 0 | 3,107,650,424 | 80% | ||
fr3eze | 0 | 1,139,183,050 | 100% | ||
cn-reader | 0 | 33,699,851,798 | 100% | ||
karja | 0 | 4,153,497,766 | 5% | ||
kimzwarch | 0 | 10,454,356,562 | 4% | ||
yellowbird | 0 | 1,785,423,373 | 80% | ||
chenlocus | 0 | 10,601,273,347 | 100% | ||
dancingapple | 0 | 9,619,980,649 | 40% | ||
hqy | 0 | 9,027,070,031 | 44.6% | ||
victory622 | 0 | 177,582,918,158 | 100% | ||
lindalex | 0 | 511,931,664 | 45% | ||
winniex | 0 | 381,478,359,479 | 100% | ||
cnbuddy | 0 | 570,208,365,002 | 90% | ||
fun2learn | 0 | 511,409,707 | 39% | ||
maiyude | 0 | 2,292,131,088 | 50% | ||
suhunter | 0 | 851,655,479 | 45% | ||
heidimarie | 0 | 13,233,935,556 | 15% | ||
mermaidvampire | 0 | 4,327,089,362 | 100% | ||
wilhb81 | 0 | 154,778,913,023 | 25% | ||
emmali | 0 | 230,283,878,729 | 100% | ||
kymio | 0 | 523,414,373 | 3.75% | ||
andrewma | 0 | 12,427,814,357 | 45% | ||
archisteem | 0 | 1,254,098,620 | 7.5% | ||
coder-bts | 0 | 6,542,907,028 | 45% | ||
raiseup | 0 | 7,861,883,945 | 100% | ||
julian2013 | 0 | 2,000,722,991 | 1% | ||
melaniewang | 0 | 8,426,363,133 | 45% | ||
steemaction | 0 | 13,542,879,110 | 100% | ||
changxiu | 0 | 4,497,325,621 | 45% | ||
annepink | 0 | 271,131,133,808 | 100% | ||
wherein | 0 | 32,014,894,519 | 30% | ||
steemfriends | 0 | 5,743,906,848 | 50% | ||
cnstm | 0 | 48,875,946,903 | 30% | ||
tina3721 | 0 | 4,330,021,533 | 45% | ||
andyhsia | 0 | 14,113,388,884 | 90% | ||
epicdice | 0 | 20,725,335,831 | 20% | ||
cnbuddy-reward | 0 | 3,721,369,283 | 90% | ||
real3earch | 0 | 1,620,984,756 | 90% | ||
dengyanping888 | 0 | 18,660,882,174 | 100% | ||
everlandd | 0 | 26,901,691,698 | 100% | ||
bai123 | 0 | 741,134,851 | 100% |