The view of the couple is a fact of cultural connotations. In some cultures, partnership has been distorted to the extent that it has become a parasitic relationship. In other latitudes, such relationships are antagonistic and end in failure. There are still some cultures that do their best to preserve the family bond. We are “rational” animals, simply, and genetically we are there to preserve the species, as crude as that may sound.

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I guess the hope would be that as they grow older they would grow together, but as you have pointed out quite a bit lately, people don't seem to do that the way they used to.  We are more focused on isolation and growing as individuals.  That leaves little time for the connections that were once so important to us.  I know it doesn't help, but sometimes kids are just dumb and do mean things.  I think people forget that because they want a reason for everything or they want to label everything as bullying or something else.  It's hard to remind people that sometimes an isolated act of aggression is just that.  I actually remember our district once got in trouble because we had too few incidents of bullying.  The director of the school was stuck on that buzz word bullying and couldn't wrap his head around the fact that kids just do mean thing sometimes. The parents have a hard time understanding that too. I'm not trying to say you do.  I know you are pretty open minded.  Just putting some thoughts in the universe...

Times have changed. Some people marry for money and once their stomach is full they kind of choose to part ways. Some do it for money and some do it for sex. And it's just that they think alimony system is reasonable and prenups are easy. They do. Some places don't have prenups so staying single is what people do these days.

Everyone have different point of view but hope everyone can have their best in life 

The world hasn't changed, people have. Morals and standards being eroded away. 

When people were married most would try find a way around/through problems that always arise. 

Alas many go their separate ways once the children have left, no longer anchored to a goal in parenting realize not much of their life is left for what perhaps they really wanted to do before dying. 

Case is mainly when one partner did more for themselves not taking spouse into consideration, when working together it is always give and take, no right/wrong answer.

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Tons of good questions here and tons to say, as always :)

But I'm taking some time offline today because swimming!

I think, though, we humans (and society as a result) tend to swing from one side of the pendulum to the other. Instead of simply changing things one small step at a time.

Tech has disconnected us. From our communties, kids and selves in many ways.

Perhaps we need to go back to only two hours a day online for a year or so and rebuild our bonds with family, children (!!!) and our communities to then find a balanced middle ground again?

As you say. We've mostly forgotten who we are (hence we don't know really know what we want) and the kids? Well... the kids are slipping through the cracks and most of them are ending up with pretty severe emotional and mental reactions now.

If you look at Bolwby's attachment theory and the rise of smart devices I think you may understand the logic here. Because it's completely understandable.

Great content again, T 👏

#theresnothingwrongwithyou #thisisperfect

I think it is just the prevalence of social media at work. People like to complain, and post about it. I have read a lot of stories of married people regretting their decision. There are also parents who got pregnant early, or didn't realize how much responsibility and cost comes with having a child. I think with hindsight, everyone has regrets. For people that aren't happy right now, they think the grass is greener on the other side. What people need to do is to find happiness for themselves now. They need to make decisions on what they think is best now, so they don't have regrets in the future. If it turns out that it was bad, then they shouldn't blame themselves as much since that was the optimal decision at the time with the knowledge they had.

On this topic you will find different opinions. According to mine, if we choose someone as our better half we should adjust with each other and most importantly we have to ignore other faults, and accept each other with all flaws. At some point of life, we realized that we can't stand by one another and can't spend life together but actually this is the moment we have to realized to ignore other faults. 
When two persons got married, its very difficult to adjust according with each other and don't want to change other according to your ideas and thinking. That's the main problem of our society.

Predicting what we might value in future is always gambling, especially, when we don't have experience with it; as you mentioned. Things change as we grow. Matching expectations at this stage, which would be far away from our younger selves, requires compromise and passion to stick together. Of course, there are times when things don't go as planned even after trying, that's a different case, but mostly, if we learn to be immune to cheap lies, life would be much easier. After all, we are social beings, we need each other, but not lies that society feeds us with. 

I’m one of the women who believe that we can should have a very good career and a man too. We should find a way to attend to both
Man needs woman and woman needs man. Even after your friends divorce, you’d realize that they will still want to have one relationship or the other
We can’t do without each other…
Family needs to be built and that the sweetest people that can happen to someone especially when you have a child and he or she is being raised by you. The child will look at you as a role model just like Smallsteps sees you