We cannot pretend to help others when we are fighting a battle in our own work and family environment. It's like advising our neighbour not to do this or that and we do it all the time, we would be hypocrites, wouldn't we?

I don't know if you know the term ‘FOMO’ (fear of missing out), well, it's a psychological disorder related to social networks that causes a generalised fear of missing out on what others are doing. This fear can lead to increased stress, anxiety, and frustration. The extreme case of this phobia is exacerbated when the user feels extreme, irrational fear or anxiety about not being in contact via the mobile phone or any screen that gives access to social networks.

Yes, you will say, and what the hell does all this have to do with the content of your publication? Well, a lot, from my humble rational point of view. We become sceptical and distrustful. You ask a stranger in the street for directions, and instead of pointing you in the right direction, he sends you five blocks in the opposite direction. This is the basis of misinformation, I think I know and in the end ‘I don't know anything’.

Many, many years ago, I worked in a Microsoft Call Center, where we dealt with some problems that Windows users presented. I in particular, because of my photographic memory, was able to respond positively to the request, other operators resorted to the manual provided on the screen and commented to the user on line what the manual said, without getting it right...

This is why the online customer service rating was devised, and Microsoft paid substantially to the operator who had a positive user rating.

**Would you ask a stranger for help? The answer is a resounding ‘YES’.** And I would also offer my help to anyone who asked for it, after assessing whether I am capable of being effective, and if not, I would look for someone qualified to provide the help required.

As usual, I have gone on long and hard in one comment…

Well, I am this person who finds it very hard to tell people to help me. I don’t have it all but I’m someone who knows how to manage my life that even though I am very sad or facing difficult times, I usually know how to manage my life in such a way that I will still be able to live with what I’m going through
I’ve faced difficult times which made me think life generally is against me. That’s a normal thing

I've become a bit cynical about the whole crowd sourcing of charity lately. It seems like anytime something remotely unfortunate happens to some one they are starting a go fund me page for it. I think go fund me is brilliant  in that you can have lots of people give small amounts to add up to a lot, but people should have insurance and things like that. Although I agree a lot of insurance is a scam, I don't think just relying on crowd sourced charity is the answer.

> people aren't interested in building relationships with people, until they want something from the other person.

Agreed, this tit-for-tat expectation is ruining modern relationships. What solves this is developing local communities! I've got different communities for different situations. Whether it's Splinterlands, Chelsea Football, teaching, raving, investing, or something else, I've been working on my social network to make sure I keep up relationships with friends in a variety of realms, in person and online. 

Thats  really good

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Is the lack of charity partially a consequence of the secularization of society? For example, here in the US anyway, a lot of hospitals were founded by religious organizations, but over the past century, the bureaucratization of healthcare through insurance and government systems has disconnected service from community and hidden it behind a concrete wall and faceless functionaries.

Hello, I felt motivated to leave some very personal thoughts on charity. When one does an act of charity, one does not proclaim it to the four winds. When I see someone bragging about his charitable activities, I doubt his true value and I understand that there is a motivation behind it that is not to help the person in need, but rather to be noticeable to  others. It is like buying attention. I see it as quite wrong. 
In the same way (I mean wrong) I see those who ask for money through the Internet to strangers, just because maybe they think or have evidence (here in Hive everything is public) that this person has a lot of money, which is relative, because each person has their own definition of what is a lot or little money, according to their reality. 
I think that charity is something very intimate to everyone. You decide if and how you want to help someone or a cause because you feel it in your heart.

Perhaps I have gone a bit off topic. 😉

I think those hit with natural disasters and fire receive help the quickest. Maybe it's because people can imagine the horror of it, and how it can happen to them. For those individuals that are sick, people are hesitant to help because they might need it for themselves. I think perception plays a big part in charity. As for charitable organizations, there is a lot of supposed corruption there, since they handle a lot of money, and they aren't taxed. I have heard that Red Cross is very corrupt, and that only a small percentage of their collections go to charity. 

I don’t really believe in ask and you shall receive. The world is not really like what it used to be. There are so many people out there who still help others but they are not common and these days, people always want to get a return for what they have done for you
It’s good to ask for help but I don’t believe in it. It works at times though but I believe in God and myself 

> those who have helped have likely been burned multiple times in the past and they know, there is a high probability that any request they receive, is not what it is portrayed to be

> I think that like me, a lot of people have become very cynical and skeptical of providing online assistance, and are preferring to help people directly instead

This on several levels.  Sibling dearest and I have intermittent discussions about how terrible we feel every time we see a post where someone is outlining some difficult situation that they need help with or some new diagnosis and our first thought is not "oh you poor soul how can I help" (if it's within our capability to do so) but "do you really".

> it is easy to feel that we are the only ones in the world suffering

Similarly to how people scared literally stupid will almost always make the worst possible decisions, people who are in a crisis (or at least feel like they are) are generally incapable of thinking of anything at all beyond what they personally need (or think that they need) right this very second.

<sub>conspiracy theory it's why "they" (whoever they are) are constantly going out of their way to try to keep people in a constant state of crisis/panic, or at least feeling like they are</sub>

To be honest dear friend, I've often felt skeptical about online charity too. It's tough when you see people being scammed, but at the same time, there are those genuinely in need. Balancing caution and compassion is tricky. Thanks for this awareness big bro