Oh boy.. Sounds just like us. We hurry around picking the little things up before the unannounced guests arrive. Not like our house resembles a frat house after an all nighter or anything. BUT if the wife gets up to pick up.. so do I or else I'm in the DOG HOUSE! lol.

No regrets here over missed opportunities, but I have felt from time to time, a sense of "There's no turning back now". What I mean by that is that maybe I feel like I have devoted too much time and effort to call it quits on something. Nothing major, just incidental things. 

I did however have a conversation with a younger girl the other day. She had this idea that there was no turning back, and that she had invested too much time in a relationship. Needless to say the relationship is on the rocks and has been for a while. She thinks it's better to push forward than to say "that's it!" One of the things I said to her was if you don't give yourself a chance at change, then you'll never know the opportunity waiting for you just around the corner. You just have to believe in your heart sometimes, and not listen to your head.

A common trait in a wife this cleaning before visitors no matter how hobo they are. 

The "grass is greener" mindset can sometimes be someone's worst enemy. They are always thinking that opportunities in XYZ sector might be the best thing for them but if they make the jump, sometimes can hate it. At my company now, it seems pretty good so far and there are some good benefits to being here. One thing that is common is people attempting to "boomerang" and work for the company, leave thinking the grass is greener, or there's an opportunity that's better for them elsewhere, and realize that it's awful then come back. I don't know a lot about these groups yet but there are some good things and bad things about many places. 

My wife and I both try to tidy up the house when even our neighbors hang out with us for a few minutes in the hall to chat. The house is typically a disaster hahah so we have to. 

> I know people who have become so disillusioned they just don't try for anything and when they speak about it, they say they don't want it but, there is a bitterness in their voice.

I believe such people fall in the aspect of not knowing how to make or take decision on their own, they live in the shadows of other people who tell them or help them in a certain situations on steps to take which is not suppose to be so but can be helpful though sometimes. What I believe is that they don't want to be blamed if throughly they take that decision on their own because what I know is that their mind will spilt into two whether their actions taken is right or wrong but don't want to fall in the negative part in other to avoid query or blame

>In many ways, this is the half full or half empty approach, where due to our fear of loss and sense of loss, we spend a lot of our energy worried about what we don't have, including opportunities, instead of what we do have available. This means that we are actually lessening our potential ourselves, as we divert energy into a blackhole, instead of into the body of opportunity we can see - with that energy being spent and lost. It is funny isn't it - We lose energy on what we don't have access to because we fear loss.


I totally agree with you people keep hunting for things they don't have or wished for at the end when they fail they put the blame on another thing instead of them to focus on what they have the opportunity in their present and work towards that.

> Change is often hard though, because it means that we have to let go of what we know and welcome in what we don't, and this comes bundled with our sense of loss aversion, where in this case, we fear losing ourselves.

This is an extreme reality.  We want change so we have to change a lot.  Sometimes we fail and sink into a sea of ​​despair.  Very beautifully written.

I have always believed that human beings are the greatest saboteurs of themselves. We are faithful to the beliefs of upbringing and conditioning and so we go through life as you rightly say, lamenting the opportunities we believe lost even if they never existed. I think that basically, in most cases, we miss the opportunities that are at hand, because of the possibility of having to get out of our comfort zone. 

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Those who do not leave their comfort zone may not lose anything, but they also fail to gain something. It is a subject on which there will always be differences and regrets. In my case, I was raised under the view that I always had to work for a company until I retired, and I did. Along the way, upon reflection, I missed the opportunity to become independent, perhaps because of the fear of leaving the secure, despite the fact that at times, there were bitter moments in that job in which I have just retired.  There are always opportunities that present themselves to us and as your client admits, we are not able to take advantage of them, which, of course, produces a bad taste after the fact.

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I think we should live more, take advantage of more, time goes fast and when the years of maturity come, one feels it more and thinks about what could have been done differently. However, it is never too late. I realized it even after I retired and now I do different things based on being the owner of my time. As always, I loved reading you, you convey reflection with reality in your words. A hug and happy weekend to you. 🤗

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Mine does the same!! She is mad for cleaning when someone says they will pop around. To the point I wonder if she is trying to get me to stop asking people to visit!

I appreciate her. As a person who cares cleanness very much, I would clean my house too even if I welcomed a friend of mine who we had seen all aspects of each other.