I don't feel like an adult most of the time and I have a couple years on you. So don't feel too bad about that one. I also feel like I lost a lot of friends because of Covid. Not that they aren't around anymore, but we maybe aren't as close. Like we isolated but they didn't, so they grew closer with the people they were able to hang out with.

Your concept on how we should live life is well articulated and quite amazing. The youths of this generation think quite differently hence the reason for their shallow thoughts about living.

I still think you're doing amazingly great for yourself, smallsteps and the community.

Your writing and analysis when it comes to writing is very good I don't think the incident has diminished your skills that much in terms of age you are still very young I am thinking of doing a post on the infantilization of society I have neighbors and a friend who treats her 25 and 30 year old adult children like babies it's crazy.

I am ancient. 47.

Everything you said about the differences in adulting now vs in our parents’ generation rings true to me. I agree that the variety of options and our high expectations of life are strong contributors. Used to be that only “kids” — meaning high school and college aged kids ran around trying things. But now that continues on throughout our adult lives. We don’t want to miss out, or be that bring person who has stopped seeking cultural and creative outlets. 

As for feeling connected, I was in a bit of a slump a few years ago, as it seems you might be at the moment. What changed was that my husband and I started doing more purposeful get togethers with friends. Like game nights, and going out to hear local musicians. And we focus on a few small friend groups that always get along well and have a lot of fun. We also travel with friends sometimes, get a cabin for a weekend, etc. it has rejuvenated our social lives!

45 is still not old, as they say, life starts at 40. So continue living your life and don't limit yourself. Enjoy your life, don't worry about tomorrow; focus on what you can do now. Keep fighting. And it's not necessarily a bad thing to lose friends. True friends, no matter what, will not abandon you in times of difficulty or joy. However, if your friends are not contributing positively to your life or well-being, it's not wrong to distance yourself from them. People who bring stress and add to our problems can truly affect our lives negatively.

I think what people need to realize is that we're all just winging it. I have seen a lot of people say how their parents seemed like they had everything figured out when they were young, and they are lost now. Are they showing their lost side to their children? I would think they did the same things as their parents. Grit their teeth, and do their best. Learn from one's mistakes and ask help from others. 

Having stroke and managing it takes a lot from people just like speed. I’ve seen so many people who had stroke but became slow with things and all but do you have an idea if it is possible for you to increase your speed again?
Are there also some drugs you usually take?

If you go to a Taylor Swift concert I'm not sure I'd relate at all...

Gah here I am doing yoga and walking to keep my body fit for surfing and I look in the mirror and yep, I'm still a middle aged woman. 

My 50 year old sister in law still goes out to parties and drinks red bull and cider and gets home at 3 am. We had one night up to 11 and it put my whole week out. She has gazillions of friends though. She can have em..I'm going for a nice walk in the country side .

Some days I feel 30, some days 878. I'm very conscious I'm headed into my last ten years of good fitness though. 

It has been about 20C in the weekend here and I got sweaty today, not to make you envy :)

Remember hearing people say they can't believe they are old now when they turn 30?  40?  You just shake your head.  Just you wait.

Just you wait til you are looking in that mirror and see someone who is 50!  That seems like such a huge blow to me as I identify as a 30-year old! ;)  A half a damn century.  Just you wait!

Things are different now for the younger generation, as it probably always was in the past, but now we are simply observing it more closely.  There are so many people living off handouts, doing things that make them happy in the short term, and not having the patience to see things through......kinda like teenagers.  Then they wonder why they are not getting adult results they imagined.

Adulting is tough and aging is inevitable so lets just try and kick as much ass as we are able and stay connected to the universe in whatever form we are currently in.  That is what matters.