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We went for a daddy-daughter coffee adventure today, after dropping my wife to a friends place, where a few of the ladies gathered to spend some time talking and catching up - and perhaps, saying goodbye. Our friend has cancer and after 10 years and various treatments, it has returned with a vengeance and it is unlikely that she is going to beat it this time. No one knows truly when, but the expectation is around a year. 

It is obviously a difficult time for their young family and everyone involved, but unfortunately, it is all too common these days and we can all be checked-out in multiple ways at any time, so best be prepared, or choose to remain in ignorant bliss.

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For me, *ignorant bliss* surrounding death has never been an option, as I feel that I have always been considering it in regards to myself. So, it is about being prepared and while I am quite content to move along as me, I don't want to leave behind a legacy of struggle and pain - nor too much complication in what might be a difficult time. I don't have much to leave, but what I do is crypto value and my wife at this point has very little understanding of what to do with it. 

From what I have heard over the years from others, I am not the only one in this similar-shaped boat, with many people having partners that do not understand enough about the crypto scene to know where to start. For me, I have made sure that one or two people I trust have access to what they need, and that my wife knows who they are. In the event of my demise, there will be people she can turn toward. I do have a little life insurance, but that is barely enough to do much more than supplement them through a year or two, perhaps cover the mortgage for a couple years. 

My wish is however, that whatever happens in the future, my family will at least be somewhat financially insulated from the economic impact of my departure. Perhaps even "thrive", where at least for some period of time, there would be resources available that can keep them going and give them a better life in my absence, even though my work income earnings will have ceased. 

I find it interesting that they might have a better quality of life in my absence, but I also don't think our quality of life now is all that bad in comparison to many in this world. The "better quality" however will come from them having far less attachment to the value than I have, meaning they will be more willing to use it for themselves, rather than just have it sitting there. I do hope they will use it wisely, but at the end of the day, that is their responsibility and makes no impact on me - since nothing will make an impact on me at that point. 

It is funny though (my funny, maybe not yours) how I feel at this point that providing for my family is more important than whether I get to see them benefit from the provision. Maybe I am old fashioned, but these days a lot of people seem to overweigh their presence in the lives of their family, and discount the value they actually bring to their family. 

In the past (and still for many today), the parent would work far away, go to war, do very long hours and barely see the children, but would be providers. Whilst there is a lot of "not great" in there, one thing I can respect is that there was definitely a sense of working for others. These days, I feel that a lot of what people do is for themselves, whether it be the work or, the lack of work, where people choose to stay with their kids, assuming that their children will have a better life for it - but is this the case? 

Obviously, this is a "case by case" situation, but I wonder if there was a metric for "quality time", is there a significant difference (on average) between the parents who stay home with their kids, or those who work a fair bit. It could be that it is like when I lived on the coast of the Great Barrier Reef, where I was sounded by beautiful nature, but spent the majority of time doing the day to day in the city, not taking advantage of the surroundings. However, when I have been back there or to similar places on holiday, I know my time is short so spend a lot of effort making the most of it.

At least for me, I think that this is the case for my relationship with Smallsteps, as while I probably don't spend as much time as I should with her, the time I do spend is high quality time and filled with us being present with each other. As a result, I think we have a pretty decent relationship overall and can discuss all kinds of things. I do see some parents (observational) that spend time with their kids, but most of that time, all are sitting on screens of some kind. They are in the same room, but not actually together. 

I don't know when my own time will be up, but when it is, I hope that *at least* the lives of my family are better for having me in it and, better because I was prepared for when I wouldn't be in it anymore. Hopefully, there are enough good memories to tide them over through the hard times and, enough financial availability to allow them to take advantages of opportunities they wouldn't have had otherwise. I also hope that the plans don't have to come into effect too soon. 

Better to be prepared than not though - 
Just in case.

Taraz
[ Gen1: Hive ]


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