Years ago, when I was in high school, I had a casual attitude toward studies.  I liked my free time and didn't have to work hard to do fine.  My first biology test in the tenth grade I had my usual laissez faire attitude.  The teacher handed back our tests and announced the results in order.  I had a 78.  He called that grade out after giving the A and B results to other students.  I was humiliated.  After that, I never got less than a 100 on a test.  Every week, mine was the first name called.  

What a smart teacher.  He knocked a lazy student off her stride and got the very most out of her.  Leave it to a biology teacher to understand social motivation. 

I think what's best for the child is more important over what's comfortable for the parent. Putting Smallsteps in a position she didn't want to disappoint was a pretty smart and effective idea though if a parent is doing this they should avoid all forms of negativity that might hurt the child's self-esteem. But it has to go hand in hand with lots of commendation for the child if they perform as expected. In my experience, that's a huge motivational factor. Thanks for sharing this educative experience with your daughter. I'd say you doing excellently well for a father. Have a nice weekend.

It is essential that parents allow their children to take calculated risks, always under appropriate safety rules. This helps them develop resilience and problem-solving skills. Avoiding overprotection fosters independence and self-confidence. Guidance and supervision without excessive intervention better prepares them for future challenges.

When I was much younger I worked on a high ropes confidence course at a local kids camp. I am still not fond of heights, but it's amazing the confidence you can get when you are harnessed in. I think my favorite part was practicing rescues. Cutting someones line but seeing they are totally secure was kind of freeing.

Smallsteps is an adventurous warrior; having the spirit of wanting to reach the top will take her to reach all her goals. That's life, sometimes there are things that cost more than others, but you have to learn to deal with frustration and not give up unfortunately there are parents like that, but at least you had for better or for worse every experience every joy every disappointment formed your character and the way you perceive the world.

When I was a kid we went to cinema, traveled by the sea or countryside but I never been bowling or to a climbing place like this.

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a great post, i think at 1st she was just having fun not taking things serious, once u showed disappointment she pushed herself to her real limits & took things serious not to disappoint u, i agree that we do push ourselves to our limits not to disappoint those who we care about, being influenced by others is good wen the influence is for good "like n ur examble" not for evil, so it depends on who we r being influenced by, i believe that parenting style should be based on what is best for the child as n young childhood kids aren't always able to know what's better for them specially things with future consequences, agree that n most cases those who think they aren't affected by others opinions r the ones most affected but as i said it's n most cases so it's now always, agree that showing disappointment shouldn't b the only way n parenting to make kids do what we want them to do, it's a mental game & can b harmful, but wen it's about things that r important & n the child favor it can b used with caution like showing disappointment wen they say a bad word, bad act, not caring about studying & school grades.  

Honestly everyone has what pushes them over the edge but the most common is the fear of failure, the never ending urge not to accept defeat, in as much as encouraging is good; it helps in pushing your mind sometimes.

Honestly good parenting friend,  although I believe it's dependent on context of knowing the child's ability if he possess it already and is having a mental issue implementing it encouragement is need if otherwise dependent on gaining an ability disappointment should be used but rightly.

My parents were dismal failures. They were never there to catch my falls.  I have tried to forgive them but have fallen short. 

You are a hero in my eyes for simply being there to catch her if she falls. 

Sounds like we both know what is like to fall alone. Stand up, dust ourselves off. Then carry on. 👍

I spent my whole life wanting approval from Dad and he was always encouraging. Only showed disappointment if I did something stupid/wrong. I just loved him to bits and it felt good when he was proud of me, which was just about for anything I did. The other day I got an awesome wave and my first thought was: 'cant wait to tell Dad' and then had the crushing realization yet again he was gone. 

Intrinsic motivation is actually the key. Figure out how to encourage that I reckon. 

It must have been difficult feigning disappoinment. However, it paid off by motivating her. It seems your daughter thrives on overcoming or meeting challenges. What really matters is your awareness on how impactful it has on her and how well you are willing to adapt. However, there is a need to balance encouraging growth and pushing too hard. 
This is really insightful 👍 
Thanks for sharing 

If I will be influenced by someone, it must add some value to my life such as knowledge, skill, postive feeling and so on.

Well, sometimes the best encouragement and influence for the other, and in particular for the younger ones isn't only to be a good example, but to provide the comfort of being there, no matter if they achieve their goals. For me, the best lesson is to trust in the path. The goal is not only to arrie at the finish line, but to continue to pursuit on the best way to get there. 
Thank you so much for sharing one more of your father daughter connection moments. It is always a pleasure to read out your thoughts and reflection about life.