Life's little bumps ... annoying, but at least everyone’s safe. Sometimes all you can do is sigh and move on.

I backed my truck into a pole the other day. The good thing is, my truck is like a tank, so it didn't do much damage. I feel your pain for sure!

yes.. suck it up and just take it as life happening. and yes, I've had my share of fender benders.. even been in a major car accident that left me with a broken leg and hip, and a car with a 90 degree bend in it. oh well, tho, that was a liftime ago..

😎🤙

That's good that there was just a minor issue but still there's always a need for people to drive safe, sometimes, what I have experienced is that people are so rude that they do these kinds of things intentionally and then don't even know how to apologise and accept their mistakes. Once a man hit my vehicle intentionally and even after doing this he didn't even bother to get off his car to solve the purpose but rather just throwing off his attitude.!

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Accidents will always happen. The question is what we learn from them.
You address the topic of guilt, and it's interesting because you may have felt frustrated at the time, but when we get frustrated, what do we resolve?
Again, the question is what we learn in the process.

The only time I've ever been in a fender bender was once a million years ago.  We were stopped at a red light when the car behind us bumped us slightly, enough to nudge us forward but nowhere near enough to hit the car in front.  We weren't far from home so led them there and the driver was an extremely apologetic little old lady, her foot had slipped off the brake apparently.  There wasn't a lot of damage to either car and no one was hurt so I don't know if we even bothered exchanging details never mind reporting it.

Vaguely related I once had to get on the horn (which I really hate doing because it hurts my ears a lot) and even that only barely stopped a young driver from reversing into me.  They were parked in a bay and I had pulledu p perpendicular to them to reverse into another bay one down from them.  I paused briefly so that someone who was up my arse (despite the indication saying I was about to turn in, I guess they either failed to notice as a lot of people seem to just fail to notice these days, or they thought I was going to nose park) could make the decision to back off or go around.  While I'm there I note the kid is starting to reverse.  I give them a moment because they're in a tiny car and I'm in a SUV, I would be taking up their entire rear view mirror.

They continue backing out.

I give them a moment more because you have to check behind when you're reversing and they can't miss me unless they're blind in which case they shouldn't be driving because I will literally be taking up the entirety of their rear view mirror now.

They continue backing out.

I tap the horn (and silently cry because that stung) and they stop and look startled and then slightly sheepish.

Slightly confused I finish parking (as the car that had been behind me is gone or backed off but either way not a problem anymore) and carry on.

Much later my daughter fires a driving instructor (she was at the tail end of her required hours and I'd wanted her to do a few lessons with an instructor to make sure I hadn't missed too much) because he apparently told her off for...checking behind while reversing because you're supposed to keep your eyes on the road or something.  Figured that explains a lot.

There's been several near misses that didn't get further than that because I check obsessively after this one incident where I nearly sideswiped a motorbike.  They had been going way over the speed limit and the only reason they didn't get sideswiped was because I felt something wrong when I was changing lanes even though my checks and rechecks showed all clear so I'd done extra checks and rechecks and then started moving over super slowly.  Had I gone normally like I logically should have I would have knocked into them as they were coming up.  As it was I pulled back into the lane I was leaving as soon as I registered the engine whine (which was almost literally a second from hearing it to them flying past me to it fading into the distance) and they flew off possibly none the wiser and I was trying not to have anxiety atttacks while driving.

I think people who are at fault are always going to try to insist "fault is unclear" both to avoid at any and all cost the bad feelings that happen when you stuff up and also because insurance blah blah blah when it's your fault.  I guess if it "had" to happen (which it wouldn't if people would kindly PAY ATTENTION when handling a giant plastic and metal death trap) it's a good thing it was low impact with no injuries.  Hope the dent buffs out alright :S

>**When the fault is unclear, it balances out**

Glad no one got hurt, but yeah, dealing with insurance when it’s clearly not your fault just adds insult to injury. People being in a rush tend to leave more damage behind than they realize.... physically and financially. I’ve been in one of those minor fender benders too, and it really is the most frustrating kind. Not bad enough to throw a fit, but just annoying enough to ruin your week and cost you money.

Hope the repair quote doesn’t make you cry. If it does, silver spray paint and denial isn’t the worst Plan B 😂

last oktober 9th costed me my premium  i was standing still while another person took a short trun and scratched the rear of my car , this year that same car got totalled because some one decides to switch lanes  while i was taking over ... so no more premium for me at the moment but at least i got a better car out of the deal since i was all risk insured. And now i'm really thinking of getting a dashcam front and back.

I had a somewhat similar experience. It was about 13 years ago in our subdivision in my home country, the Philippines.

It was about a year after I had graduated college and started working for my dad's firm. I had two college students in the car, my juniors, we can call them. Part of our university's curriculum is an On-The-Job Training class where you work for a local firm to earn real life skills beyond what the university can teach.

We we're heading to a job site - a residential construction area within our subdivision's perimeter. This is when the "event" happened.

I was driving into an intersection while I was pointing out landmarks and previously completed construction projects in our area. 

There was a big house at the corner that kind of blocked my view of incoming cars. It was a blind spot.

I peeked in a bit and got the nose of my car into the crossing to see if there were any incoming cars. I saw an old man on the wheel, but he was looking down! He wasn't paying attention. 

Next thing you know.... *crash!*

It wasn't deadly or anything but it did leave damage to my car's front left area. Left headlight was completely destroyed. You get the idea.

I called my dad shortly after and he ran immediately towards the scene (our house was only a couple of hundred meters away). He did all the talking while I had to walk back my new employees to the office.

Later on, I was called in to the police station to complete the report.

My dad tried to convince me that we had to make it seem like I was the one at fault. Just because the older guy who crashed into my car (who wasn't paying attention to the road!) did not have any insurance!

And from an off-the-record discussion with my dad, the older guy said he was indeed not looking at the road because he was looking at the food in his passenger seat! He was delivering lunch to his son's house!

I was furious at first! How is the accident my fault when I was not the one who was not paying attention?

Even though I was hesitant at first, I eventually caved. This way, there's an easier claim to our insurance, plus, we get to help the old guy move forward with his life.

Was it fair? Was it justified? At least nobody got hurt.

I think, at the very least, someone learned something that day. 

That’s really frustrating, especially when the damage wasn’t even your wife’s fault. I’m glad no one got hurt, but it’s annoying how people try to avoid responsibility. Saying “fault is unclear” when they clearly reversed in a rush feels unfair. I’ve been in a similar small accident before, and honestly, sometimes it’s just not worth the stress of going through insurance. I remembered that as I was able to make a turning a motorcycle cross and hit me from the driver side. It is an experience I couldn't forget easily for the car that didn't even belong to me then. And here, I don't think we often use our third-party insurance here. It's the car owner who has a premium, or should i call it comprehensive insurance that gets to use the service. Many drivers just restort repairing their car or the other person car themselves without involving the insurance to the best of my knowledge, though.  I hope the repair won’t cost too much! 

 

It's awesome to know that everyone is okay and your car is still in working condition those are definitely some positives in this scenario.