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**Let´s start by calling out the real reason why I am not writing about photographs on this lazy Sunday Morning.**

**@mipiano made me do it, she made me go into my storage room and look for photo albums. Just wait until you see the pictures, then you get why that was enough for me this weekend.**
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So I reverted to what is probably my favorite post of the week. Yes, @edje if you have not noticed yet I enjoy your Spread the Vibes (challenge not a challenge) a lot.

#### WHYWHY
Because there are a lot of interesting posts about music out there, and it makes this fool stop typing and start reading. While reading the best thing happens, I get triggered.

That moment when someone else´s words inspire that single thought, that little spark, that feeling, that memory. That means you were touched, in one way or another.

In all honesty, I am not that easily touched. 
Often I need to go through a couple of posts, but not this week. 
This week "I fell with my nose in the butter," as the Dutch would say. It means I got lucky, but not in a sexual way (although the butter might suggest differently).

###### **[My Brother's Girlfriend: How a Photograph and a Guitar Ignited my Youthful Passion for Music [ENG/ESP]](https://ecency.com/hive-192806/@freakshow90/my-brother-s-girlfriend-how)**

Now I could do a whole post on my brothers' girlfriend but let's keep that for the summer when things get hot and sweaty. 

This post by @freakshow90 was simply lovely. His posts are a good read in general but this one stood out. Not sure if it´s because it was inspired by @mipiano but she does bring out the best in a lot of us for some reason...it must be the teacher's gift I guess.

Freakshow got inspired and wrote some great stuff about a man who fell in love with his brother's girlfriend. He shows us how that girlfriend looked and if you checked the post and saw that smile you can imagine a young boy falling for her.

The same thing happened to me in the past a couple of times with my girlfriend's girlfriends. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KgkBWZXVLyk

But that is again a story for a hot and sweaty summer.


Let´s get back to Freaks´ story and what triggered me:

>  Because even in the darkest of times, music remained a light that illuminated his path.

Now that was a little corny (hence it could have been me writing that) but it set the stage and then this happened:
>  And although the years continue to pass, he still believes in the magic of music and in the beauty of the memories that are kept alive in his heart.

The boy in the story is secretly in love with his brother's girlfriend and wants to be a rockstar to express his platonic love for her through music, not even to impress her...although maybe....?

Now that is where I was triggered in two ways;

Thirst I thought back to the music that inspired me as a pre-teen kid. But I did not stop there, for once I thought one step beyond (that is what smart people do you know?). 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XkrxWCiLN_0
Did the music I grew up listening to was a projection of my future personality or shaped that personality?

#### My Pre-Teen Music 

**Doe Maar;** A Dutch semi-reggae band that sang about smoking weed but warned for heroin (a song that later seemed to refer to the band's drummer). I ended up smoking too much weed and never touched horse. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xX9I9kiaPRI

**Beastie Boys;** License to Ill,  well what can I say I grew up drinking and smoking, fighting for my right to PARTY. Which caused me to have less of a career than I would probably have if I grew up listening to Maria Carrey.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eBShN8qT4lk

**Meatloaf;** Bat out of Hell, For Crying Out Loud this is the best album of all time (except for Paradise by the Dashboard Lights of course). Ever since this album, I am in love with anything epic and it shaped my love for seeing the beauty in the roughness.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8KyHDNQkBSA&list=PL248ar1sMUaBcgwctosA7BA1Yhvh99f5k&index=7

So based on those pre-teen albums, I should have grown up a weed-smoking, partying, leather jacket-wearing rocker that doesn´t mind some foul-mouthed rap once in a while.....right?

Well, I guess that pictures me exactly at 18.

#### The Eternal Question 
Was it the chicken or the egg, the only thing I can say for sure is that the rooster came first.
That doesn´t answer the eternal question did we grow up the way we are today because of the music we listened to early in life?
Or are we able at such an early age to pick the music that fits the person we will be 10-15 years later? 

#### Nature or Nurture?
Coming from the land of compromises I would say a little of both, as a pre-teen I had already a bit of that streetfighter mentality, probably because I had a big mouth and did not easily back down.

**So what made me smoke weed?**

I always blamed Ewa, as she handed me my first joint. But maybe I liked it a little too much because of my love for the Doe Maar reggae. 
Anyway, it got me smoking and spending my time in coffeeshops, but I quickly moved from a coffeeshop with popular music, to a more alternative one. If I wouldn´t done that I probably would have ended up like this:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qz4HfJHxMk4

Instead of being in love with the grunge scene:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-fgoY2slKik

I would say that the music we grow up with determines the places we go to later in life. And of course there are the sheeple that only follow the herd. But many of us will choose to visit the places where we feel comfortable.

Music brings comfort, and so you visit places that sound like you. 
There you meet people, people that like the same musical and turn into friends.
Friends have an influence on your development and the direction you go in life. 
#### Bottom Line
The music that you listen to and shapes you as a pre-teen does certainly influence your path later in life. 

On the other hand, the type of music you listened to in those early days is a reflection of who you are as you wouldn´t have liked that music if it contradicted your personality.

So the big takeaway for me here is that I will determine what my kids listen to growing up, I already made an initial selection:

#### My Kids Playlist
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8aRor905cCw

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8qImH-0UCHI

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YcXMhwF4EtQ

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8bdeizHM9OU

That way I do not have to worry about my dwindling pension! 

#### Invite
Now I know that part of the STV policy is to invite others to join in. I usually do so to avoid being hunted by the MP (Music Police). This time I am truly curious to hear from some of you if the artists you listened to as a pre-teen had an impact on your teens and the life beyond. 

#### What is Spread The Vibes
If you want to know more about the Spread The Vibe Challenge not A challenge [please clikerdeeclick me](https://peakd.com/hive-193816/@edje/challenge-not-challenge-spread-the-vibes-or-with-music-and-stories)

**Thank goodness you made it till the end peace, love and I am out of here!**

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