Authority and responsibility go hand in hand. If you want to hold me responsible for something, you need to prove I'm in charge of it. 
There are millions of harmless men quietly playing video games and being ignored by women.
Women are free to date them, but most don't want to. They want the dangerous ones, and sometimes that goes poorly. Obviously they have my sympathy, but it's like a mudslide in Bangladesh. A sad, fairly predictable outcome of choices I had no part in.