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· @tarazkp ·
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All in vain
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Summer is fast approaching and we have my wife's nephew's wedding to attend and, since this is the first wedding in a few years, it means that a new dress is needed. But, this always comes with a problem, because my wife is short and petite, and they generally don't make or stock dresses in her size, especially long, formal dresses.  

The other problem is that "her size" has changed over the years, even though she is the same size. Vanity sizing has seen "size creep" where as the average size of the population increases, they have relabeled clothing so that people feel that they still fit into what they did a decade ago. The "xs" size that used to fit, is now like her wearing a bag and the "34" that fit 80% of the time, now is far too large. 

*Vanity sizing...* 

How easily we are fooled.

>This has happened in men's clothing too. 

![image.png](https://files.peakd.com/file/peakd-hive/tarazkp/23x1HhECTWX1dTRkJRqjaiU9VTJsyKzjEMmX57PFhD1j67GJ2gKzNEQ5RryxMzkPEMWBT.png)

Speaking of expanding waistlines....

For dinner tonight we ended up having waffles and while my wife hasn't changed much over the years, I think that I need to head off to the gym a little bit more than zero times a week to get into some kind of shape. I just cant seem to find the time or *motivation to find the time.*

>What's with that?

I don't feel great or look great and I know I should be doing more, so why is it so hard to actually do more, or eat better for that matter? It definitely seems like a highly flawed design when our body is made to degrade its own performance by choice. 

![image.png](https://files.peakd.com/file/peakd-hive/tarazkp/23vsNEZZzfsChxMZPjLkBwM7GiB5q1cTTj8cnCNHC9bkFKWFgP3b4g4hWPMn4TuUsJoqt.png)

I feel a bit like my daughter looked as she tried to hid herself away from the sun shining in her eyes. I am pretty sure that most of the Sundays of my twenties were spent looking very similar. 

>A few in years of my thirties too.

![image.png](https://files.peakd.com/file/peakd-hive/tarazkp/23w2oL6YE7GbFp8eG1Nh5jGSQYghoPvNoD2UPTgFbraEGu4fNk4u2DrWURa5W89UsCgxB.png)

But a young family we are not and it was funny to hear my wife say that she remembers when her parents turned 50 twenty five years ago and she felt embarrassed because they were *so old.* I will be a few years over 50 when my daughter is the age she was and my wife will be on the nose. 

>Lol. 

Childhood silliness comes back to bite and I am *sure* that our daughter will feel like her mother did, embarrassed to have such old parents. Though, it is probably going to be more common in the future, since so many people are waiting until later to have kids these days, or not having them at all, as the case may be.

![image.png](https://files.peakd.com/file/peakd-hive/tarazkp/23z7DhCoc5BwbQGowwrDxMUxou4iNEj51DxVHnZdrViiUm1gpL66ZJTBqHk4XdjopWwK2.png)

I do wish that I had children earlier than we did - but it just wasn't on the cards earlier or at least, not acceptably. Being an older parent has some advantages too I guess, but I think there are more disadvantages than positives, especially in the case of energy and general health. It can be a pretty rapid downward slope after 40 and unless actively fighting against it, it is easy to one day wake up and realize, there is not much more to be done and it becomes more of a salvage operation, in the hope that there is still something useful to be saved. 

One thing I wish younger people would realize is that while they needn't be obsessive, they really should look after themselves better under the assumption that they are going to live longer than they are prepared for, financially and physically. 

Culture is working against us however, as it is just "so easy" to avoid doing what is right for our bodies, minds and emotions and instead, follow the crowd - fitting into the one size fits all world we have created. We can hide away, edit out blemishes and feel that we have remained unchanged through the many vanity filters that stop us seeing the reality of what we are becoming.

What we see is no longer what we get.
*And we happy to have it that way, rather than facing the truth.*

An invanity check.

Taraz
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@bashadow ·
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I always thought that people that had children at an older age would be able to stay more fit since they have to keep up with the kids on play days and outing.
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@tarazkp ·
I wish that was the case! Though it could just be my parenting style :)
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@bashadow ·
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Does she bike ride? Who trained her? Teaching that requires a lot of running? and then there will be all those school sports she might want help with. Kids are a good work out equipment, even when they are not your own.
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@gangstalking ·
<div><p><center><b>Whoever is directly controlling the V2K told me to kill myself.<br/>They told me if I killed myself now it would save the lives of countless others.<br/> Saying the longer I wait to kill myself the more people will suffer.</b></center></p></div><br/>They are reckless and should have shown the proper media what they had before taking me hostage for 5 years. I know there are many in prison that dont deserve to be there because of this. Your stay in prison will not be fun @battleaxe and friends. People are going to want you dead when they find out what you did. I hope you die a slow painful death. You sick mother fuckers.<br/><br/> https://peakd.com/gangstalking/@acousticpulses/electronic-terrorism-and-gaslighting--if-you-downvote-this-post-you-are-part-of-the-problem<br/><br/> Its a terrorist act on American soil while some say its not real or Im a mental case. Many know its real. This is an ignored detrimental to humanity domestic and foreign threat. Ask informed soldiers in the American military what their oath is and tell them about the day you asked me why. Nobody has I guess. Maybe someone told ill informed soldiers they cant protect America from military leaders in control with ill intent. How do we protect locked up soldiers from telling the truth?
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@madolf ·
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Truth deliveredπŸ‘
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@tarazkp ·
Some truth :)
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@mypathtofire ·
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I totally feel you, the last 2 years hasn't done my fitness and health motivation any favours! But I did try youtube videos which are quite good to get started and don't require you to leave your house. I can recommend the body project. Daniel is a legend there.
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@tarazkp ·
I know a few people who are much fitter now than they were - but most are a bit less so. Will have a look at Daniel :)
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@positivesteem ·
Humans are generally vain creatures. By catering to our vanity the textile and clothing business can make more money.
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@realitavshaluan ·
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indeed when it comes to clothes now, for example, I'm very small and thin now, it's different from when I was in high school who was a little fat, but if a high school uniform is worn now it won't fit, so every problem is normal and hopefully there is a solution, congratulations on the wedding of my sister and niece We.
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@tarazkp ·
Do you have trouble finding clothes?
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@ryivhnn ·
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The vanity sizing suits me fine, I usually try to get stuff from the kids section and they've gone up to size 18 so now I can have cheap AND super baggy clothes.

>  It definitely seems like a highly flawed design when our body is made to degrade its own performance by choice

Apparently human evolution is incredibly slow or technology accelerated faster than humans could adapt as it seems that they still haven't cottoned on that a lot of us get little to no exercise and have food constantly available and are still acting like any second now there will be a predator to run away from or prey to chase and tomorrow there will be nothing to to eat for a week.

> embarrassed to have such old parents

Doesn't seem to matter even if you have them "young enough to enjoy them" XD J and I both wanted kids so decided to have them in our 20s (didn't quite go according to plan so ended up happening in early 20s rather than mid) and they still think we're old XD

I do remember once thinking my mother was SO OLD when she was 38, she was not impressed XD

> And we happy to have it that way, rather than facing the truth.

I donno, there have been many pushes for "authenticity" (or one big ongoing one I'm not sure what the deal is because I don't care enough x_x) and a lot of people have no idea how to do it but the ones that have people stick around seem to be the ones that are "authentic", everyone else might have high follow counts but their audiences are extremely transient.

But I guess it depends on whether one cares more about volume or depth right :)
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@tarazkp ·
>and they've gone up to size 18 so now I can have cheap AND super baggy clothes

This raises other questions about society! :D
My wife buys kids clothes most of the time too - but for a dress for a wedding (and shoes) they just don't make anything suitable here. 

>I do remember once thinking my mother was SO OLD when she was 38, she was not impressed XD

This back - my parents were in great shape for their age - puts me to shame!

>everyone else might have high follow counts but their audiences are extremely transient.

Some people complain on Hive because there isn't enough random activity - but that isn't the way web3 is going to be set up I believe - at least not totally. What people will start looking for is some stability in the content they consume.
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@videoaddiction ·
I see that many people worry to have a kid before a certain age, before 30s or 40s. Why? Because they say the age gap should not be much as if we are in a race and going to finish it.

>they really should look after themselves better under the assumption that they are going to live longer than they are prepared for

I wish too, however I don't see it on them. I think that after age of 35 or 40, we should care our body much more than before. Umfprtumately, married couples both men and women don't care it. Men get a round belly, and women get fat hips.
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@worldstories ·
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childbearing in youth stage is very important، because we have the ability to adapt to our children ideas and try sharing with them their activities by going out together, understanding their matter to consolidate relationships. There are children who prefer friends because they don't find someone at home for simple advise or just to talk to him.
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@tarazkp ·
Yeah it is interesting, as I think my parents were from a generation "too far" from my own, not understanding the basics of my own needs.  
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