Us humans are funny. We put labels on things, people and emotions to name some examples. When we say I am in love with him or her, it is like we imprison ourselves with a binding magic spell. 

As I am well halfway through my 30s and after having lots of volatile relationships in the sense of arguments, its best to stop away for one hour, 12 hours or a couple of days. 

Attachments and expectations associated with our perceptions of love  is unfairly levied, or rather projected, onto our partner. This creates an impossible situation for two lovers to adapt and grow through compassion and understanding as opposed to expectations and demands.

The coupling process requires great sacrifice on the part of you as an individual and you have to be able to give the person wiggle room to grow into the relationship and vice versa.

This takes great faith in a partner, which is why a pact with God is usually entailed through marriage... Aside from legal governmental matters😄.

I hope I made somewhat sense in expressing my opinion....