Through my travels in life I've found that both men and women are striving for the same thing in life but trying to achieve it in different ways because of their biological and psychological make-up. A man wants a family, a woman does too - and similarly a man wants to be single and have fun, a woman does as well. But each try to achieve this in entirely different ways because of social constructs, ideologies and a whole range of forces in our micro and macro environments.

When people start getting a hang of this, truly, then I think we can move towards the common good. Rather than a blame game it can be changed into a life journey where we support each other. Gawd. I'm such an idealist lol

To me, at core, feminism claims women suffer more than men do because men protect a system that benefits them at the expense of others. I haven't found this to be true. And I haven't found that people need to identify with the ideology to be very well aware of women's struggles or champion for better treatment. 

I think the idea that women suffer because men ignore to their benefit is dangerous, it can create resentment and hinder conversation.

It's weird that a woman being a tomboy is more accepted socially than feminine men, yet I think trans-male is less socially accepted than trans-female. do you think that's true?  

There is still some prejudice about women's choices of individuality which men don't experience, in my observations.