Challenging Love to Be Unconditional - Part 15 by everlove

love · @everlove · Feb 13 '19 (edited)

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Challenging Love to Be Unconditional - Part 15

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<h2>Transition!</h2>
<p><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-1"><strong>Part 1</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-2"><strong>Part 2</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://steemit.com/love/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-3"><strong>Part 3</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-4"><strong>Part 4</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-5"><strong>Part 5</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-6"><strong>Part 6</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-7"><strong>Part 7</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-8"><strong>Part 8</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-9"><strong>Part 9</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-10"><strong>Part 10</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-birthday-intermission"><strong>Birthday Intermission</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-11"><strong>Part 11</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-12"><strong>Part 12</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-13"><strong>Part 13</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-14"><strong>Part 14</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong></p>
<p>My two teenage children were still living at home.<br>
Their father traveled extensively throughout the years,<br>
had become increasingly absent the previous two years,<br>
and moved out of the house and the picture many months ago.<br>
The kids and I were quite accustomed to it being the three of us together at home,<br>
living life our way and creating our own balance.</p>
<p><br>
Our house was, as it always was, &nbsp;the gathering place.<br>
We often had children sleeping on couches,<br>
foreign students staying on exchange, travelers passing through,<br>
friends/family needing a place to stay,<br>
swim team/birthday/holiday/enjoyment-of-today parties,<br>
And the place to talk about taboo subjects and explore unusual perspectives.</p>
<p><br></p>
<p><img src="https://scontent-dfw5-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t1.0-9/154121_1695328990428_4343426_n.jpg?_nc_cat=105&amp;_nc_ht=scontent-dfw5-1.xx&amp;oh=904f983475a2a004a91cf9f7e458d933&amp;oe=5CDA6843" width="480" height="720"/></p>
<p><br></p>
<p>Quinn coming into the picture amplified some of these realities,<br>
While others no longer seemed in flow.<br>
<br>
Since Quinn was so close in age to my children<br>
(only about 5 years older than my son),<br>
having Quinn in the house as my significant other was quite a shift for my kids.<br>
They had been used to a father figure who would try to direct them<br>
toward a semi-traditional competent adulthood. &nbsp;<br>
Quinn’s place wasn’t to direct them,<br>
and he certainly wasn’t anything about tradition.</p>
<p><br></p>
<p><img src="https://scontent-dfw5-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t1.0-9/58057_1703813922546_6973446_n.jpg?_nc_cat=108&amp;_nc_ht=scontent-dfw5-1.xx&amp;oh=828d954c1a66c5250cc54ab6945b19ad&amp;oe=5CDC5BAB" width="480" height="720"/><br><br>
</p>
<p>There was a quite a big time of adjustment at the beginning<br>
while I was spending more time with Quinn,<br>
and his eventual more frequent visits and permanent move into our home. &nbsp;<br>
There was definitely love, hope and honor, as well as jealousy, fear and judgment,<br>
(which would come and go throughout the years) as I embraced the power of this relationship.</p>
<p><br></p>
<p><img src="https://scontent-dfw5-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t1.0-9/1918767_1229437703437_7190926_n.jpg?_nc_cat=103&amp;_nc_ht=scontent-dfw5-1.xx&amp;oh=ea67a284170b7b4a1ef81718327fe728&amp;oe=5CE5C26B" width="604" height="453"/><br>
</p><br>
<p>After getting over their initial shock of Quinn’s and my relationship really taking hold,<br>
The kids eased into the flow of the more open perspective Quinn brought to the table.<br>
As unschoolers, they took advantage of &nbsp;the freedom, relaxed environment,<br>
And non-demanding nature of things at the house.</p>
<p><br></p>
<p><img src=" "/><img src="https://scontent-dfw5-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t1.0-9/32447_1450293544695_7471543_n.jpg?_nc_cat=102&amp;_nc_ht=scontent-dfw5-1.xx&amp;oh=21da931bab7e68b949dcd34b3135ccd1&amp;oe=5CEDC80D" width="720" height="480"/></p>
<p><br></p>
<p>We cooked together, played games with their friends,<br>
Talked philosophy of life, and celebrated some holidays with Quinn’s family.<br>
Quinn even made a surprise birthday breakfast for my daughter as one of his sweet little gestures.</p>
<p><br></p>
<p><img src="https://scontent-dfw5-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t1.0-9/35601_1702630172953_3077703_n.jpg?_nc_cat=106&amp;_nc_ht=scontent-dfw5-1.xx&amp;oh=6305298dbe9f1baaa6942d314800b43a&amp;oe=5CE08A39" width="480" height="720"/></p>
<p><br>
Almost all fun and games was a great way<br>
to open the doors for Quinn’s entry into my home.<br>
My son was already in his late teens. &nbsp;<br>
In the absence of &nbsp;his father in the house,<br>
he was keeping a closer eye in watching out for his sister and me. &nbsp;</p>
<p><br></p>
<p><img src="https://scontent-dfw5-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t1.0-9/36152_1610296864678_1223966_n.jpg?_nc_cat=100&amp;_nc_ht=scontent-dfw5-1.xx&amp;oh=b1b47255642d83c5bb59fa8af1d0db7c&amp;oe=5CFD6489" width="416" height="720"/></p>
<p><br>
Gratefully, Quinn didn’t attempt to assume the role as head of the household,<br>
or pressure the kids to behave a &nbsp;certain way. &nbsp;<br>
There wasn’t confrontation, coercion, manipulation or control<br>
as often times a partner might play when joining a household. &nbsp;</p>
<p><br></p>
<p><img src="https://scontent-dfw5-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t1.0-9/167186_1740338595640_1643395_n.jpg?_nc_cat=106&amp;_nc_ht=scontent-dfw5-1.xx&amp;oh=dca643fd5ea8ca6203ae479d4584d6cb&amp;oe=5CECA981" width="480" height="720"/><br>
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<br>
I worked diligently to keep the balance with my two very important worlds -<br>
my super involvement in my children’s lives,<br>
and simultaneously &nbsp;my soul-shattering relationship with Quinn.</p>
<p>Quinn fit in perfectly into the world my mind created as a free thinker,<br>
yet gave rise to great opportunity to figure out who I was,<br>
and how free, yet responsible I could be, but yet wasn’t.</p>
<p>I wanted to give my kids more freedom (without enabling them),<br>
And I wanted to be freer myself.<br>
The stress free, less encumbered life was unfolding before my very eyes.<br>
Everyday I was immersed in the love that surrounded &nbsp;me,<br>
thoughI became more increasingly aware still how limited that love was.</p>
<p><br></p>
<p><br>
<em>Being free isn’t all as easy as it sounds--not for a conditioned mind anyway.</em><br>
<em>Though I had been on the path of a conscious existence for many, many years,</em><br>
<em>I still had many layers to uncover, acknowledge, accept and change.</em><br>
<em>Talking about it and wading in the water is something entirely different than</em><br>
<em>Full-on immersion in living it.</em></p>
<p><br>
<em>My ex was not about unschooling or any of that freedom talk<br>
(which I believe to be one of the major thrusts in the dissolution of our marriage).</em><br>
<em>Being with Quinn, who was free not only in his body, but more importantly in his mind,</em><br>
s<em>howed me great contrast to what I was really living and who I was BEing.<br>
It was apparent to me that I had some more serious introspection to do<br>
to become the person I truly wanted to be.</em><br>
</p>
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<h3><br>
<em>Go with me on the journey toward Unconditional Love!</em><br>
</h3>
<h3>Stay Tuned for Part 16</h3>
<h3><br></h3>
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