| json_metadata | "{"app":"Musing","appTags":["Question",""],"appCategory":"Question","appTitle":"If I love my wife but she is infertile and I desire progeny, but refuse the prospect of a surrogate, should I divorce her and marry another?","appBody":"<p>There are some extraordinary answers here, yet I feel especially fit the bill to answer this on the grounds that my first spouse divorced me since I couldn't have children. It was quite a while prior and there weren't the choices there are today, yet we both knew he needed \"his own\" children - all the more particularly, he needed a little girl to name after his cherished grandma. Knowing how he felt, I was the person who really requested a separation. </p><p>Presently it is decades later. He remarried, have a little girl and named her after his Grandmother. I met and wedded an extraordinary man who had two great children. Presently I have two grandkids I cherish so much it now and again alarms me. I am composing this with fingers decorated with dim blue nail clean, which my multi year old stupendous little girl chose for me the previous evening. </p><p>I have totally forgotten about my first spouse, yet need to state that I don't feel any outrage towards him. When it got to the first of numerous choices that can represent the deciding moment a marriage, we couldn't work it through together. That occurs. </p><p>A couple of years back, my fabulous little girl was befuddled about how we were connected on the grounds that I am neither her Dad nor her Mom's Mommy. I contemplated it for quite a while, and revealed to her that the two different ways to make a family are through blood and through adoration. For the duration of our lives, we have heaps of decisions to make family through adoration. At that point she and I experienced the rundown of the considerable number of individuals we knew who were family a result of affection (counting her Mommy and Dad). </p><p>I wouldn't have known this, or have had the lovely family I have today on the off chance that I had endeavored to compel my first spouse into an answer he didn't need. He wasn't and is definitely not a trouble maker - he simply needed what he needed, as we as a whole do. </p><p>It has turned out that the immense misery of my life- - losing the capacity to have children, and losing that first marriage- - has presented to me the best delight of my life. </p><p>So my answer is that on the off chance that you feel unequivocally about this, at that point let her go, with as much benevolence and support as you can. Go past what you figure you ought to give her the monetary and enthusiastic help she will need to remake her life. This is an open door for you to develop and to be the sort of individual who develops into the sort of parent we as a whole want to be. </p><p>You two may love one another, yet insufficient to manufacture a coexistence.</p>","appDepth":2,"appParentPermlink":"pkmwczyl5","appParentAuthor":"pavillion","musingAppId":"aU2p3C3a8N","musingAppVersion":"1.1","musingPostType":"answer"}" |
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