| json_metadata | "{"app":"Musing","appTags":["male"],"appCategory":"male","appTitle":"How to explain to a man who thinks he is not male chauvinist , that he is?","appBody":"<p>I usually do not fall into that of \"you're a macho\" so you do not feel insulted and you do not start an unproductive dialectical struggle. I prefer to tell her that her arguments are guilty of machismo (subtly different from telling someone that she is macho) and try to dismantle them with logic and personal examples that touch her private life. What if it works for me? Not much, although some productive discussion I have propitiated and some man (and woman) I have left thinking.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>I usually have enough patience because I think that only then can I achieve something. If I start to start qualifying or alter the only thing I'm going to achieve is that the other person gets even more defensive (usually does) and castles in their macho attitude.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Obviously, the indignation I notice, but I tend to temper my nerves and my speech because, well, in case the other is out of mother, I will have kept the composure, the elegance and have provided weighty arguments that I know they can get to resonate in the future (or not, but that does not depend on me anymore). I already say that I have achieved something, especially with people who believe me to be guilty of machismo and who I think are somewhat embarrassed when I explain how I see the matter. That yes, although I know (by attitudes, by the way of lowering the head, by his speech more abated and his eyes that give them away) that something of what I say is left and reflect internally never recognize and so I have seen children give me the reason in private (or at least question their beliefs) and then, in front of other colleagues, make public derision of my arguments, guys that when a friend of his in some social network told me \"another feminazi\", \"happy</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>your boyfriend has to be with you \"they have been silent like graves (it's very funny: no matter what you say, if you smell respect to women you are already a feminazi, if I do not laugh at a joke I am a feminazi, if I encourage Men to pick up after a meal too, it's amazing). These guys, well, they would record on their mobile the glorious fuck of their pack to a terrified girl and they would say they had never actively participated. For me, they are real cowards. But well, who knows, for every logical, rational and argumentative discourse that they hear about the issue at best, and only at the best, an act of violence against women is avoided.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>I swear that sometimes I say \"do not go into the rag\" (do not yield to the provocation as the bull does with the cloak), but I can not. I enter, even if I leave scalding. My boyfriend already tells me many times that I get into shirts of eleven yards and if I know what foot they hobble for what I get. I suppose because of idealism, because it hurts me that someone close to me, of my age, young, has thoughts that contribute to make even bigger the wall that separates both sexes, a wall that lowers our panties to humiliate us and that kills us .</p>","appDepth":2,"appParentPermlink":"fklpyu785","appParentAuthor":"fabioladiaz","musingAppId":"aU2p3C3a8N","musingAppVersion":"1.1","musingPostType":"answer"}" |
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