| json_metadata | "{"app":"musing/1.1","appTags":["life","love","relationship",""],"appCategory":"life","appTitle":"How can you define Love ?","appBody":"<p> <strong>Tough question. Hard to answer.</strong></p>\n<p><strong>Love is probably one of the most universal feelings and yet, one of the most difficult to define.</strong> What is love for some (self-sacrifice, selflessness) may not be for others who may expect more determination and resiliency. <strong>Some people think that if your love for someone is not possible and may even hurt that person</strong> (his/her parents disapprove, for instance) it is better to let that person go, <strong>whereas others think that love must fight any obstacle no matter how many hearts get broken in the process</strong> or how short the relationship ends up being at the end when either of the party realizes it was just pure chemistry that fades away after some sex. </p>\n<p><strong>In theory, every person should be able to identify if cupid has hit them with one of his arrows and if that impact is requited.</strong> However, people insist on separating <strong>infatuation</strong> from real love. Thus, we have to assume that there is a sort of superficial love that is actually a <strong>physical attraction that may produce some chemical reactions</strong> on either or both parties and may induce them to do some crazy things such as wanting to see, talk to and be with that significant other. After getting to know the person better, the infatuation may be substituted by some other feeling, including indifference or hatred.</p>\n<p><strong>If, after knowing the other person better, the family, the friends, the bad times, the manias or defects, the feelings of euphoria, affection and desire remain</strong>, then maybe the relation may move to the next level and chances are it will be a long-lasting relationship. Yet, we know how even after 13 years of marriage and 2 or more children what was thought to be love may disappear. Thus, <strong>like female orgasm, love can also be faked and thatβs the trickiest thing in the world</strong>.</p>\n<p><strong>Authenticity, transparency, mutual respect and interest in one-another's views and inclinations, mutual concern and desire of protection, may be good indicators</strong>. We make a mistake by measuring love by what the media has determined must be a person-in-love. Movies and advertisement have raised the bar and forced people to become something they are not because allegedly yhe other perosn expects them to be that romantic magician from the movies and soap operas. Buying presents, calling, taking out for dinner or different fun places, writing poetry or giving serenatas, are supposed to be things people in love do. <strong>It is really hard in the real world to compete with the magic and resources of the media</strong>.</p>\n<p><strong>How can we tell if it is for real? I donβt think there is a formula for that</strong>. From culture to culture, person to person, loves manifest in different ways and may or may not pas the trials that will guarantee long-lasting and happy relationships. In any case, <strong>a relationship should be put in question if one feels that either of the parties must sacrifice too much in order for it to work</strong>. Love should allow the parties involved flow and grow as they explore the different levels of friendship, passion and intimacy, always pursuing the best for both and avoiding pain at all cost. If one of the parties must always sacrifice, change or stop living so that the other be happy, there is something terribly wrong and must stop.</p>","appDepth":2,"appParentPermlink":"fkp9m2uzq","appParentAuthor":"mystry360","musingAppId":"aU2p3C3a8N","musingAppVersion":"1.1","musingPostType":"answer"}" |
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