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musing-threads · @jeanlucsr · Jan 27 '19

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@artgirl · Jan 29 '19

What do you do when people only see the negative things in you and nothing of the good things you've done?

<p>That's true. This particular person I am talking about got it from our new superior. I should probably let this person know because it looks like they are unaware of it.</p>

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@jeanlucsr · Jan 29 '19

What do you do when people only see the negative things in you and nothing of the good things you've done?

<p>You can let them know, but do keep in mind that them being unaware can put you in a more awkward position where they don't acknowledge your help or even misinterpret your intentions.  If someone would have approached me 4 years ago with the info I have now, I might not have had a listening ear. Hope it works out. #Lobi</p>

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@artgirl · Jan 29 '19 (edited)

Well... They talk about management during their meetings so anything I and anyone else does gets reported anyway. And one at the top has learned of what I did. They can make it all about me or not, I can play devil's advocate all day. Lol.

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