| json_metadata | "{"app":"Musing","appTags":["Relationship","love","Life","marriage"],"appCategory":"Relationship","appTitle":"Ladies, would you tell your man about another mans advances and attention towards you??","appBody":"<p>That would have been the proper thing to do as it strengthens the love bond between you both and makes your trust for each other very robust. It takes two to tango you know and as such, it would mean you both fighting for same cause. But again looking at the loopholes it creates, I will not support or do this again a hundred percent.</p>\n<p>I once dated a guy. Our relationship was very open and we shared everything including secrets. We went as far as telling each other about advances from other people. He'll tell me about the new girl in the neighborhood who wouldn't stop staring at him, or about the female lawyer at court who made advances at him. We would laugh when he tells me about his reactions to them. I was open too and told him as much as I could. But then, it happened during my final year in school, I really had very tight academic schedule plus my aunts kids and business to look after. I rarely had time for myself as I had a hard time keeping up with everything. It was like I had the world on my shoulder. This affected my relationship in a way. I and my boyfriend were several miles apart living in different states. We only talked over the phone.</p>\n<p>He kept suspecting that I was seeing someone else. How possible could that be with the work load on my head. Even after explaining myself, he still won't take it from me. He complained that I no longer tell him who's making advances at me. Even when i told him that there was no one, he didn't believe me. It's not possible for a beautiful, smart and intelligent girl not to have people drooling over her he always says. This was a major challenge then. For me, that was the result of insecurities.</p>\n<p>Some partners have gone to the extent of check mating each other's lives, monitoring what is going on in their partner's lives through their chats and emails. That's crazy I think. Trust is the bedrock and backbone of every relationship. If you don't trust your partner, you shouldn't be in a relationship with them in the first place because your mind will never be at peace. When they are not with you, you just assume that they are with someone else. Forever is too long to live your life monitoring another when you are not FBI agent or working with the CIA.</p>\n<p>The problem is so complicated these days that even saying a hi or hello to someone else is greeted with suspicion by some partners. A simple address as \"dear\" by another means that the person is interested in you and wants an affair. For me, don't start what you can't finish. Forever is too long to try to win someone's trust. Its distracting and energy draining. If you can't keep up with informing them about who makes advances at you, they may take it that you are cheating or you stopped being open to them.</p>","appDepth":2,"appParentPermlink":"p3pudtyn5","appParentAuthor":"purpletanzanite","musingAppId":"aU2p3C3a8N","musingAppVersion":"1.1","musingPostType":"answer"}" |
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