| json_metadata | "{"app":"musing/1.1","appTags":["world"],"appCategory":"world","appTitle":"What are the worst things in your country?","appBody":"<p> </p>\n<p>I’m not fond of superlatives, but I’d summarize it in one word: Lenience.</p>\n<p>· Our willingness to forgive children because they are children. A child grows up to become a selfish adult who hardly ever takes responsibility. I think we are more indulgent about boys than girls (consider chauvinism in this case, too).</p>\n<p>· Our willingness to forgive every failure just because we know we can—we will—fail, too, at some point. Call it collaborative shame.</p>\n<p>· Our willingness to compliment others whether they deserve it or not. Nietzsche said something related to that; I’ll paraphrase: We offer compliments a lot because we fear people may turn against us some day (they'd better be happy, or at least happy with us).</p>\n<p>Like psychology has it (e.g. Jung states it), we project our own flaws on others. When we assume others need to be forgiven because of their lack of expertise (case of children), or that they need to be forgiven because their incapacity to thrive is actually a personal trait, or that they need constant assurance so their self-esteem won’t hit the floor, I think—and this is my opinion—we are just saying: “I am so afraid to fail, but also so sure I will fail that the best way to go is showing my happy face.” Important things become a joke; for example: raising a kid is easy. Parents may end up beating the hell out of their children because they have not taught them to cope with failure and their consequences properly. Marriage is easy, too. You can always divorce. Don’t have a job, everybody will understand, and they will give you some money. And the list goes on.</p>\n<p>There are a lot of positive things to say about my country, but you’re not asking about those, right?</p>","appDepth":2,"appParentPermlink":"f34agxezq","appParentAuthor":"mulder2000","musingAppId":"aU2p3C3a8N","musingAppVersion":"1.1","musingPostType":"answer"}" |
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