| json_metadata | "{"app":"Musing","appTags":["love"],"appCategory":"love","appTitle":"How to reconquer a woman?","appBody":"<p>Lol. Hold on there for a second, Alexander. I don't think human beings are things to be \"conquered\" or \"reconquered\" for that matter. I can assure you that going to a lady with the mindset of \"conquering\" her is one of the fastest ways to make sure that you never get the girl to like you.</p><p>If you do mean, however, to inquire as to the methods by which you can get a girl back after falling out. Perhaps after a break up that wasn't consensual then I'll tell you that the way to win her back mostly depends upon the circumstances surrounding the falling out in the first place. </p><p>If it was a case of an ugly break up where you both hurled things at each other and cursed and shouted and screamed and everything then I can tell you that winning her back won't be a very easy affair. Same goes for a breakup where the cause of the split was entirely your fault--perhaps due to a flaw of character or your infidelity. </p><p>Women mostly don't take well to guys who hurt them in the past. Seeing as they tend to give their all in relationships and expect the guy to reciprocate equally, any guy who had been giving a first chance and screwed it up is mostly likely to never get another chance. Thankfully though in cases where the guy really is penitent and willing to change and really loves the girl and is willing to do what it takes, there is still a slight probability that the girl can be won back.</p><p>And the very first thing to do is to examine what went wrong in the first place and decide for yourself if there is still hope. Because most of the times during the immediate period after a breakup we feel as though the whole world is going to end with that person and this feeling prompt us to forget or reasoning and try to succumb get the person back.</p><p>But you have to give yourself some time to reflect on what you did, or what caused the breakup if you wasn't your fault, so that you can analyse the situation and really come to that conclusion that you absolutely do want to get the person back, and you're not just feeling that way because you miss the person or you feel like your happiness is entirely dependent on them.</p><p>After haven't done this then; having decided that you truly want that person back, not just because of a fleeting nostalgia, but because you really DO care for the person and really do love the person, then you can start to work on your flaws and making yourself better. You try to fix in yourself whatever fault you might have shown to the person that may have caused the person to break off that relationship in the first place. </p><p>It's only after having shown yourself tangible evidence that you can fix these things and that you're very well capable of adjusting, that you should then try to win the girl back. Because without this not only is the girl not very likely to not take you back, but also even if she does, the very same flaws will still be present, and the same cycle will still repeat itself, leaving both of you even more hurt and feeling more stupid than you did in the first place.</p><p>So after you've worked on the flaws that caused the relationship to break down the first time around, then you work on making yourself an even better person than you were during the first relationship. The goal here is to make yourself not only better than your flaws but better in general as a person. This way you'll become more attractive to even people who are not the girl you're trying to win back, and when you become attractive to other people this gives you a sort of \"it-factor\" that turns the table around, and draws the girl that you are after, after you.</p><p>So that in the end you don't even have to do all the work; all you have to do is make yourself better in every single aspect of life, make yourself someone desirable again. And think, if when you were a flawed person she was attracted to you, imagine how even more attracted she'll be when she finds that you've made yourself an even better person all round than you were back then.</p><p>Now almost as important as the things that you have to do all the things that you should make sure not to do. And among them are, one, acting creepy. Please for the love of God don't be creepy. Don't stalk her or bug her or crash her DM with romantic poems every single time.</p><p>Give her space; give YOURSELF space. Don't be obsessive. This might be hard at first of course because you miss her and you feel like you fucked up and you need to be with her every single time and just try to let her know how sorry you are, but this method only gets her more estranged. The thing to do, like I said, is give her spac. Let her miss you, even if just a little. Even if you don't know it.</p><p>And finally in the end after you've made your move to get her back, you have to be willing to respect her decision. Don't go all psycho boyfriend. Have confidence and self respect. Use it as a stepping stone in life. Learn from the experience. Go work on yourself some more without her in mind. Indirectly this might even help get her to chase after you BUT you must never have that in mind, else you'll just find yourself in a crazy agonizing loop.</p><p>Cheers and have a nice day.</p>","appDepth":2,"appParentPermlink":"f3d7bnj9x","appParentAuthor":"fabioladiaz","musingAppId":"aU2p3C3a8N","musingAppVersion":"1.1","musingPostType":"answer"}" |
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