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“Being in a relationship”,what is the true meaning? by sundaysunday

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“Being in a relationship”,what is the true meaning?
“Being in a Relationship” is guy code for checking your balls at the door and giving up all your own rights to the woman that you are in the relationship with. She gets full control over you and full say over what you will and will not do and when you will and will not do it. That is why I do not recommend a serious relationship for people under the age of 25.

Most guys will subjugate their needs all day long for a shot at some sex. The trouble is that 2,000 years of religious dogma has taught us that you can only have sex if you are married or more recently, in the last 50 years, you can only have sex if you are in a committed relationship. That is complete bullshit. Break free of the religious dogma and get a clue.

I do not think that kids should be having sex under the age of 18, but it happens and there isn’t much you can do about that. From age 18–25, I recommend that you have lots of friends and selectively choose friends to have sex with, but I do not think that being in a “committed relationship” where you are required by the terms of the relationship to see each other every day, give up hanging out with your friends to be with her, buy her dinner all the time, spend money on and birthday gifts and mindless “3 month anniversary” cards. Stop it. Grow a set of balls.

For sure in high school, you can ask a girl to the prom without having to be in a “relationship” with her. She isn’t going to give it up on prom night any faster because of the relationship status. If she is going to give it up, she will give it up. Period. Kids start way too early with this idea of a “relationship”. I have seen middle schoolers talking about “my girlfriend”. Dude, you are 12, you don’t have a job, you don’t have any money and you live at home with your Mom. You do not meet the basic qualifications to have a girlfriend. So stop it!

Once you turn 25, you can start focusing on being in a committed relationship as you work towards getting married at 30. But don’t make the same mistake most guys do and date the same person for 5 years. That is suicide. You need to date people for 3–6 months, see how it is going and do a “relationship inventory” every 3–6 months. If you get to the 2-year mark, you need to have a serious conversation with yourself because you are not allowed to keep going if this isn’t 100% who you want to be with. You are wasting your life and your time and hers. I often recommend breaking up for 6 months and if it was meant to be you will end up back together. Yeah, she will likely sleep with a few guys and yeah, that will suck, but it’s just sex, get over it. If you are 90% sure she is the right one, then great. I say stay in the relationship, but 75%-80% forget about it. Not worth the risk that the 75%-80% becomes 10% sure 3–5 years down the road.
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