We've all heard the accusation of being "lazy" cast about. Over the years I've come to realize it's often a euphemism for various disabilities, or projection. They don't actually necessarily care why you don't want to do something, or can't. They don't care if you're in pain or need to rest. They don't care if something is wrong, like executive dysfunction, where you just can't get yourself to do something. Often they'll just yell and scream as you try to explain, claiming it's just excuses, because they simply don't care.

When they ask you to do something, they aren't actually asking, because they don't accept no for an answer. If they're not lazy, why don't they do it though? Why are they screaming at you and throwing accusations of you being lazy when they could just do it themselves?

They will see someone barely able to walk and ask them to carry their load.

That's not how this works. That's not how any of this works.

That's not the stories I was told, even as I grew up seeing this time and again. Those aren't the morals I was told to hold. That's just abuse.

But it's far too common.

Far too many people just use those around them, not accepting no, using abuse and manipulation to get what they want.

But you have to tell them no.

You have to say no for your own safety.

Suffer the lash to escape the yoke.

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