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Being Real
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Hello everyone!
When I came across this prompt, I smiled. I smiled because on a good day, I could write a very long post on this particular topic without getting tired Lol, but I won’t as I do not want to bore my wonderful readers.

> 📝 We have all had embarrassing moments or times we feel embarrassed for someone. Was there a time you received love texts or gifts that made you cringe? Or did it happen to someone close to you?

First off, I hate being called endearing names by guys, it irks me whenever I am called those names by certain people. You can’t just start calling me “my love or sugar” just because we smiled at each other a few times or because we have spoken a couple of times. So anytime I am being called these names by people who are not qualified, I cringe.


![IMG_5369.jpeg](https://files.peakd.com/file/peakd-hive/ibbtammy/23uFRytshDuXxEhwNjb7CLZaBbsucDW5RQT3GwVzu5iV6SYb2CqXhWZ9N93bnMvvQfqyv.jpeg)

When it comes to this thing called love I do not know how to pretend. I can’t pretend that I love you neither can I pretend that there’s hope for us when there’s no atom of hope. I can’t  pretend as that’s one hell of a job.

 I appreciate people who love me, I mean choosing to love me is such an honour but when it isn’t mutual I tell you upfront so as not to hurt you eventually. So when I  tell you this and you keep trying to fight for “us” that never exists, it annoys me.

I don’t want to wake up to you sending me morning text messages neither do I want you calling me those pet names. Don’t tell me you miss me  or love me because you won’t get the reply that you want. I try to be straight with people when it comes to matters of the heart as I do not want my actions to be misleading nor do I want to love out of sympathy.


![IMG_0084.jpeg](https://files.peakd.com/file/peakd-hive/ibbtammy/23xVTTDsrxwYqBQoNQ2H2aritPxPoqsxq9iZmdMXtYUSgeB5HXqDXVRao9hhGwteqxc4c.jpeg)


While coming up with this post my mind went back to an incident that happened when I was in college.


In my second year in college, I had a good number of male friends, while the majority understood their place in my life the others felt that they could be more than friends even when the signs were there and I didn’t hesitate to laugh at their guts as always. 

I think during the second semester of my second year I met Silas. Silas was supposed to be just a colleague of mine as we were in the same faculty but different departments and at that time I was borrowing Silas’ departmental course so we sort of exchanged numbers to keep each other abreast with school work, that was the goal and we were on the same page or so I thought.

One  Friday evening after returning from school and pushing away everything that screamed school so I could enjoy the weekend to the fullest, my phone beeped, I checked and it was a text message from Silas. I was skeptical to read it but since it came from Silas I knew it was urgent.  The text message was likened to a sample of one of those endless assignments.
I started reading the text, and the more I read it the more I was getting angry, my blood was boiling.

I was mad because I do not like to mix my personal life with my school life as it tends to be messy sometimes.


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*"What did this guy send?"*

>"Hello, sweetheart, 
My one and only better half
.....blah blah blah"

Like who sends this after two meetings? How do you even know that I am your better half? When we barely know each other. I don’t know where you guys get these pickup lines from but it’s so unrealistic and annoying, imagine you lying to my face all in the name of love. 

How or why did Silas even feel like he had the right to send me such a text message when we barely knew each other, for crying out loud I  could be a married woman.

Love is beautiful and just as being texted those lovely words by the right person can make my day, the same way the opposite can make me  cringe.

<sub>All images are mine except otherwise stated.</sub>

**Thanks for stopping by**
**Loads of Love🥰🥰**
**XOXO**</div>

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@brijwhiz ·
Ouch! what a cringe moment. Glad you were clear on what you wanted in your life. Like you said Love is good, as is Friendship but first there has to be agreement from both ends before to jump to calling the personal names. 

#dreemerforlife
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@ibbtammy ·
I totally agree with you Brijwhiz🙂
👍  
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@cindynancy · (edited)
I have when a guy want friendship by force there is nothing bad in being gentle when approaching someone you love. For me if you come in a rude way i will embrace you. 


#dreemerforlife
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@ibbtammy ·
You are totally right Cindy, thanks for stopping by😃
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@cindynancy ·
You are welcome dear friend
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@jessicaossom ·
Wow, your post really resonated with me! It's refreshing to hear someone speak so honestly about their feelings when it comes to matters of the heart. I completely understand your frustration with receiving unwarranted affection and pet names from people who barely know you. It's important to set boundaries and be upfront about what you're comfortable with, just as you've done. Keep being true to yourself and standing firm in your beliefs. 
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@ibbtammy ·
Thank you Jessica for this heartwarming comment, you rock!😊
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@mesonia ·
Your caption is so real like the content itself...isn't it? 
So, yes, I like how you're keeping it real. Haha! But you're saying the truth. Calling someone you just met endearing names is questionable especially if it's not on the friendly level.
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@ibbtammy ·
Thank you my !Lady for your wonderful comments😊
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@olujay · (edited)
Lmao

I agree that there are these certain cringeworthy things that guys do when making advances to women. I prefer to be smooth and subtle when I'm trying to "get a woman," although it's often perceived as being slow. But that's more effective to me as I don't put annoying pressure instead.

So, Silas' sweetheart, on behalf of the men in the world don't be annoyeded. 😂 We just don't used to have sense sometimes. 
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@ibbtammy ·
>So, Silas' sweetheart, on behalf of the men in the world don't be annoyeded. 😂 We just don't used to have sense sometimes

Apology accepted😂😂😂
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@rukkie ·
I can relate with you sis. Things like that makes one cringe. The best is to ignore them as much as possible. 

Came from Dreemport. 
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@ibbtammy ·
Abi oooooo

Thank you Rukkie for stopping by Rukkie😃
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@schmidi ·
Cool post ;-)
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@whitneyalexx ·
Very cringe-worthy and tiring to deal with. Being placed in the dilemma of losing the friendship and letting them down politely hoping they understand. There are loads that don't want to understand.
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@ibbtammy ·
> There are loads that don't want to understand.

I tell you and it is so tiring!
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@whitneyalexx ·
Sure is.
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