Someone once said that a girl knows if she will date you or not after meeting you for 2 minutes. If you like her, ask her out and don't worry about the money part. Every girl will "chop your money" but no be bad thing. Normally, you suppose spoil your woman with money. 

However, I'll also advice you to focus on her mental qualities when you get close. If you think she's someone that wants to chop your money and then run, there's no need to ask her out in the first place. 

It's tough being in a position like this but in my honest opinion. I think since your intention with her is to get close enough to date her, then it's best you're sure she's available - not in a relationship before you guys get too deep into it. 

You could casually ask if she's with someone, whatever reply she gives you know where you stand and if she's available do not rush it with her, take your time. 

Regarding your friend saying she's just coming for the money, it's easy for people to try and spoil someone's image. Does she seem like someone who's after your pocket? What evidence does your friend have regarding that claim? Evaluate all of that before you make your final decision.



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once you make her feel comfortable as a friend, she won't see the need to date you anymore, you have been friendzoned, in some cases she may decided to make you her bestie with benefit if she doesn't wanna lose you and in some other cases both go their ways if one can't bear the heat of emotions in him anymore.. 

The best thing is to show her the green light now

Ask her if she is in a relationship
Let her know you want to be more than a friend to her
No need to be so direct, take her out on a couple of dates[like twice] and express yourself and what you want...
If it doesn't work out, go your way, don't get used ....

@startstrings01 man the whole community have gathered for your sake this is really family love.

But I will still advice you as a gee 😉 brother.



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Is fine you want a girlfriend and looking from your story you've seen the girl you liked and also want her to be your girlfriend.

For now don't ask her if she have a boyfriend or not because it will actually sound odd to her for you to ask but still mind how you spend around her.

I will say you still try to be her friend since you guys just started talking for the range of 1-2 weeks. Just be showing her some amount of care.

I will say you continue to make her feel comfortable around you and also do well to watch her actions towards you because that's what gonna make you know if she is into you or not.

>she might get to like me more than a friend without having me to ask her to be my girlfriend.

I will say you should ask her yourself and make everything official to avoid her making assumptions of the relationship between you two.
Another reason is if you did not ask her you won't have that right to correct her on somethings she does.

>What do you think, should I ask her if she is in a relationship or, I should just keep getting close to her and possibly, feelings might grow mutually. 

Don't ask her if she is into a relationship or not but ask her to be your girlfriend then if she is into any relationship she will tell you.

Good luck man.



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If you express your mind to her at this early stage I can assure you,she will friend-zone you. My only advice for you is to create a mutual friendship with her for now and don't ever show her your pocket size or else you're ready to be taken for granted because She will just come for your money and leave you wandering.

I'd say you get close to her...yes that talking stage is actually necessary which will determine if your relationship with her is going to work out...
So make the talking stage a process you only get to be in a close relationship with some you're familiar with it not friendzoneing it just a process I feel we need to go through before we end up together...with time if she has feelings for you it definitely going to surface.. then I'd say you're go to go

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**Thank you, dear friend, for taking me into account.**

Personally I want to start by saying that each experience is different, unique and special, obviously the experiences of others can help us or make everything worse. That is why I advise you to first take into account what you want for your life and project it into the future. There is a book that I want to recommend you called Who will I marry? by Luis Palau this book will help you a lot to concentrate and make the right decisions.

I know that many people have their own criteria but my relationship is based on 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8

4 Love is long-suffering, it is kind; love is not envious, love is not boastful, it is not puffed up;
5 does not do anything improper, does not seek his own, does not get irritated, does not hold a grudge;
6 One does not enjoy injustice, but truth.
7 He suffers everything, believes everything, hopes everything, supports everything.
8 Love never ceases to be; but prophecies will end, and tongues will cease, and science will end.

When you understand that love goes beyond what you want to do, that is, that it must benefit the other person before it benefits, then a serious relationship can begin.

THERE IS NO PERFECT RELATIONSHIP.

If that girl is for you, you should not rush, share with her, but yes, make sure that she is not in a relationship because what is sown is reaped, it is law.

I hope my words help you, you are young and you have a lot ahead of you.

# Many blessings to you my dear friend.


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I'm just coming online and got your tag! Yay, you found a girl you like and want to be in a relationship with. That's good!...

You want to be so friendly with her that you *won't need to* ask her to be your girlfriend? Nah. It won't work that way. Like the smart advice already given here, she may likely friend-zone you because she may get the idea that you *just want to be friends*. But you know what you want.

I'll say speak with her. Let her know how you feel. If truly she's in a relationship (like your other friend told you), she should tell you outright.

How's studies and your health? Feel better soon and good luck with your relationship. 😉😊

Trust me there's always going to be a negative side when it comes to relationships, especially here in Nigeria where most things are all about monetary gains. 

My best advise will be to get to know her and study her. If you think she's worth keeping as a long term friend i.e if both of you connect well on a deep level but if its just a mutual kind that would end up in both parties having issue, which wont be of help to your mental health, just give her space and find someone who really connect with you on a deep level. 

The important part is how you both connect, not the other person she's dating. The choice is hers to make if she wants to stick with you by leaving the other guy. I believe there's no single girls anymore or i guess its hard to find one.

Note: Whatever decision you wish to make, try to make sure you would never regret any of your actions and just have fun. Life would never be all bed of roses mate. 

Love hard and know when to let go if it's not a healthy relationship. 
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Hmm this is interesting, I had to read through the post and also the comment section and I must say there is almost nothing i can say about this situation as @projectmamabg gave a really good point and I'm in support of her idea.

Don't ask her that question, it might be a ruin to the journey you've started with her. What if she has started having second thoughts about her present relationship for some other reason (because of you maybe) Asking her such question will just ruin everything and you won't even get the chance to tell her how you feel about her.

That person that gave you the information should mind his or her business, you decide what you want and I'll suggest you keep up the plan you started. 

Keep being friends with her but tell her your feelings sooner since you heard such, it would be best to hear what she has in mind sooner than later when maybe you're too I love with her and she doesn't love you back. It won't end well. 

I want to believe that she would accept you even though she might be in a relationship. And even if she is after your money, at least you know now, play wise 🤷‍♀️ don't let that happen but spend wisely on her while she's still on the friend zone. 

Relationships are not easy but we can make it easy for ourselves by the kind of person could connect well when you meet a soul mate, you should be able to tell she is the kind of girl you really want, study her and tell her soon, no wasting time.



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Anyway, the internet is probably the worst place to seek relationship advice and I personally do not like giving advice, but here is what I can do for you and that's helping you think about the situation deeply.


WHAT DO YOU WANT? Without all the supposed bottlenecks, what would you do in this situation? If I was in a similar situation and came to you for advice what would you tell me. Whatever answer you come up with, that is what you should do. When it comes to love and relationship, do not let too many third parties in, they can ruin a beautiful thing. Cheers!

Bro! Please don't get zoned. What I will advice you is this, a girl you like and would want to date, don't start it with wanting her as just friends then hope it will become a romantic relationship tomorrow, no, don't do that, just make your intentions known to her, let her know you have Feelings for her from the beginning, and also find out if she's seeing someone. If she's seeing someone, then you can stick to just being friends, but make sure you let her know your intentions towards her before asking her if she has a boyfriend. If you start with just being friends with her, she's going to see you as just a friend and it will be difficult to leave that zone in the end. From one bro to another bro, tell her how you feel, but make her know you are ready to take things slow. She knowing your intentions, she will know that whatever friendship you guys have, is going to slowly build into a romantic relationship. By the way, I love your response to that friend that said what he said about the girl, just be cool, and everything will work out, be yourself.

I haven't read the whole article (I will do it after this comment) but
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
>So, there is this girl I have been seeing or talking to for some weeks now. Yeah, I like her and my plan is to allow her get very comfortable around me, get very close to her as a friend then probably, she might get to like me more than a friend without having me to ask her to be my girlfriend.

NEVER DO THAT if you want to have something more special with that girl!
You will be FRIENDZONED faster than when you drop a glass on the floor!