The hour is not the same though. The hour in front of the TV is resting and recovering while the hour at the gym has a bunch of logistics, requires work to figure out an exercise plan, and then requires additional rest to recover from the extra effort.

Potentially your friend is happy with her choice to rest and recover from her day in front of the TV, but feels the need to feign gym-interest to you and society because of the peer pressure to accomplish everything, all the time, all at once.  I'm sure she could actually make it to the gym if she actually chose to. 

I'm all for championing rest and recovery in this truly overwhelming society we've created for ourselves. 

A deep and honest reminder that most failures aren’t caused by circumstances, but by choosing comfort over action and feelings over will.

I said this to someone else the other day... The problem with settling is you usually don't realize you have done it until you view things in hindsight. Often many years after the settling has already taken place.

Yup, all the excuses. I have a hack for when I just feel lazy.. i tell myself just do 1 minute of whatever the activity.. like working out.. then i can stop if I want, but I usually just finish it.

> The reality is, *she does have the time. What she doesn't have,

Is the will.

Yes, I too am lacking the will. I think about all the things that I could be doing, but instead scroll through more Instagram stories and comment with friends in group chats. I justify it to myself by saying that I'm keeping up with my acquaintances and talking to my friends. But it is just distractions.

I really need to be figuring out how to start streaming from my PC to make content. I really need to set myself on a proper writing schedule to maximize readership and the value of my content (like who cares about my Splinterlands season report when I mostly do it nearly 2 weeks after the last season ended). I really need to get myself on a proper gym routine and nutrition program because no matter how little will I have in the moment, I ALWAYS feel better after I put in the work.

I think the comfort of my teaching job has left me so comfortable that I have let go of my goals and I'm just floating by. It is exactly what you say, while things aren't getting harder, they are shrinking in value. I see less friends face-to-face. I eat less quality food. I don't feel as athletic as I used to. I don't get the same buzz from creating content and entertaining.

The worst part is I feel mostly powerless to change. I sued to write 2-3 music articles a week when we were first growing our EDM publication Moon Lvnding. But now that I've been doing it for 5 years and we have a much bigger staff below me, I'm lucky to write 3 articles a month. I've had to event reviews just sitting on my "digital" assignment desk for over a month without touching them.

I definitely need a hard reset! Maybe it is time to eat a fistful of mushrooms and get my life back in order. Also, Fuck Fascism!

Interesting post and comments. The choice is ours what we do with our time. Are we pushing too hard as a society and we sped up beyond the normal limits of a human being? Maybe. Are we using this and procrastination as an excuse to not do productive work? It happens, to some more than to others. So yeah, it is a matter of choice, but it is also a matter of peer and societal pressure, I suppose. Life has a different speed in different parts of the world and cultures. It's interesting that the ones that take it slower (in modern terms, but not necessarily as daily activity) tend to live longer and be happier...

Are we chasing things though? Or are we just running away from the cascading events of the past, down the only path that remains, a result of our prior choices? 

Which was the <em>first</em> choice that set you upon the path to having these thoughts and writing these words. So many people are "victims" of their circumstance, through which, as a result of their prior choices, (perhaps ones they couldn't even control) - find themselves with less and less agency as time drags on. 

The concept of even being <em>able</em> to choose is a gift, a gift given by every circumstance you've encountered. 

Maybe, I too, am rambling in response to your rambling, but that's the most cathartic part of interacting with another sentient being. 

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The question you pose in your reflections is certainly a dilemma. I have my doubts (and will probably continue to have them until I die) about where the emphasis should lie, if indeed there should be any determination at all. Perhaps it is some what Hamletian. As the Spanish (or rather Basque) philosopher, novelist, and poet Miguel de Unamuno said, “we are sentimental animals,” and we cannot escape that. Of course, we are also action, not always driven by will. But is will our salvation (so to speak)? I have nothing but questions. 
Best regards, @tarazkp. Thank you for your reflections.

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It's true that our lives are a bit complicated, but we make that complexity even more complicated along the way.

I'm randomly reminded of the Footrot Flats movie that I saw where Wal decides on some fitness program that he's "GOING TO START RIGHT AWAY!" then promptly takes an injury and limps offscreen appending "...starting tomorrow."

I'm always happy to listen to people complaining if they need to get something out of their system.  Sometimes I can even help or advise if they need/want it.  

<sub>I no longer have the friends who used to whinge about how nobody ever helps or advises them on how to fix the problems that they're having but whenever I did then try to offer advice/help they would immediately whinge about how everyone always tries to jump in and fix the problems instead of just listening</sub>

The ones that aren't allowed to complain anymore (or at least not without getting a snarky response) are the chronic complainers who refuse to take any steps to fix whatever it is they're complaining about.

<sub>some leeway for when they're trying and failing or it's taking an obscenely long time or in some monumentally stupid workplaces where they're literally being forced to put up with it or quit and they're basically stuck there til they find another job which apparently is still not the easiest thing to be doing right now</sub>

In some fairness to a lot of people "feeling like" something at the time is a massive productivity boost (I very rarely "feel like" cleaning the house but when I do get into that mood which is usually probably unhealthily driven by rage and nothing positive I get so much more done than when I'm just having to do it because it's on the schedule and the schedule is how I get the things that I never, ever want to do at all done) so they (incorrectly) "feel like" there's no point if they don't "feel like" it (I used to do this once upon a time).

Very true, we are only able to achieve if we push hard and push through discomfort and do things that are hard. Be it with our body and building it or with achieving things in life.

And for normal people it doesn't matter how financially successful you are,  you are always a dollar short or a day late...

This is a wonderful writeup with a very clear message tho it took me time to finish reading but I have picked one thing or the other in the message,I have being away for years doing nothing on my hive 
But coming back today it was a matter of determination and just has you have rightly said about to do or not to do 
I have been battling with that situation for long and today I made a final conclusion on coming back strong on hive no matter how hard the situations maybe 
I have decided to do this 
What a lovely writeup @tarazkp 

This is a thought-provoking content, I must say. It really made me pause and think about how often I let my feelings decide for me. Like you said, it’s not that we don’t have time, it’s that we don’t will ourselves to use it well. I love how you flipped the question from “to be or not to be” to “to do or not to do."” 

As humans, it is easier to follow our emotions or prefer to do what is less stressful and demanding. Humans prefer to have too easy and attimes we don't like the effort in achieving the result by we love to have a desirable result. Not all can put in the work in achieving success, but we can envy those who put in their best when they achieve their goals. To achieve our goal in life, we have to deny ourselves some comfort as we all know that nothing good comes easy. If it's enjoyment you desires, you don't necessarily need to put in much task, but remember that the end might be disaster if care is not taken.

 In the end, our actions shape who we are; not our intentions or emotions. I will end with this saying that actions speak louder than voice. 

I am very lazy and do not like to go to the gym. But I also understand that all day in a chair in front of the TV will kill my health. Therefore, I choose the movement that will bring me joy. If I have money, I go to a restaurant through a large park, if I have no money, I go through a large park to another place. There are many beautiful places in the world.

I think we get stuck in our comfort zones, thinking that this sense of ease is actually happiness, but it just leads to stagnation and lazyness.