Ive always said we need HIVE METHADONE and HIVE AA HIVE NA clinics, i evcen created AA coins on steem engine and whole plans. we wopuld use @vimm and 24 7 streams to prove sobriety or video image uploads and WITNESS SPONSORS 

we can LITERALLY RE WIRE BRAINS to replace DRUGS with CRYPTO but they have to be able to make the person happier than teh drugs and pay for housing and healthcare

At one time I wrote about [the Pareto principle](https://hive.blog/life/@alekst7/pareto-principle-one-for-three), but it seems to me that in this situation where people have to decide to continue their efforts or not, with respect to someone, it works in the 5/95 ratio..

  People are more likely to refuse to support others without seeing real change. And rightly so.
I agree that a valuable and scarce resource should not be wasted without believing in a successful outcome, and I agree that resources should be redirected to where they can have maximum effect. 

But, on the other hand, we do not know what a person has inside when they have a critical moment, a "bifurcation point," when just one more word from us can change them and their whole life. As the Bible says: "In the morning sow your seed, and at evening withhold not your hand, for you do not know which will prosper, this or that, or whether both alike will be good."(Ecclesiastes 11:6).

It is subtle and individual, and one must have wisdom and faith to do right in each individual case..



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I also have close people who have these qualities of complaining about their problems/addictions but each time we meet and chat, it’s the same. They don’t change and if I try to give an advice they either don’t say it’s not going to work or even might get offended. That makes me think that these kind of people are pretty comfortable where they are and they are just talking out loud to get some relief. I used to think that I’m helping them by letting them to just talk, but then it gets tiring, like listening to the same song over and over again. To sum up, I only listen to my closest friends and relatives now, and if they don’t want an advice, I just let them talk cause I know they can’t afford a psychologist, and they are using me as a person they can trust and be vulnerable with. If it becomes to much for me I can always space out. I think close relatives deserve some of my time, and I know when I feel  sad and need a support they’ll listen to me and might give a good advice.

You and your brother get a lot of comments, you two also try to respond to all of them or the vast majority of them. It takes time. I got a lot of comments on one of Galen's post not long ago, it took me what felt like forever to respond o them all, and then I had other comments to respond to. So it takes a lot of time, and I remember back on steem when I was part of an onboard and help new users team, it took a lot of time, and still like you said some just did not get it or were unwilling to get it, or were just pretending so they could get support. 

I waste a lot of time doing meaningless things, but when it is a waste of time trying to help it really wears down on the nerves, the body and the spirit, and can as you showed in your 18 year old story use up a precious resource that could be used by someone else that would honestly value it.

Just came along your profile and you have a really great writing style! 

The topic is really deep and has a meaning to me. When I read about those topics I am one of those peoples that "just read" but is not doing any commentary. I just let it "sink in". 

But I had to appreciate your work.

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>My point is, there is a kid laying in a bed with a future in front of him with a condition caused through no fault of his own

This time you reminded me of an anime masterpiece Monster. The best doctor was assigned to operate on the politician because he promised money to the hospital even despite the fact that doctor was needed to save a kid who had a bullet in his head. 

>I weighed 47 kilos and I had to be without food and water for five days while the inflammation subsided, other than a saline drip.

I think after this I would eat like Goku... ~~I wonder who would be paying for  that~~😭
 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sbtVDYrF6cU

I don't think I said this before- Thank you for spending your resources on me.

Great article @tarazkp, 

As someone who is in long recovery from alcohol and cocaine, my stance is this:

I'm more than willing to help someone who wants to get clean, but I am also perceptive to knowing when a person really wants it for themselves and are willing to put in the necessary work without criticizing the advice of someone who's found sobriety. 

I've had to walk away from more than a few people who were dragging me down. On the same token I stood by the sides of men who were truly trying, and ended up dying from their addiction, but because they gave it 100% effort in a humble manner, I would not turn my back on them. 

Addiction comes in many different forms of course. The addict in me might be addicted to other *(less harmful)* things now. It's a matter of perspective. Consumerism based society depends on addiction. A man like you comprehends this no doubt. 

It's within our nature and human responsibility to one another to make sacrifices in charitable ways, we just need to maintain a level of perceptiveness with how much of our life is affected in negative ways when we try to help, measure accordingly and do our best. 

Have a nice day :)

People are finding many different excuses to explain their failures - how could they and their behaviour be the reason of them being poor/dumb/naive; you name it.
I do it myself as well, but at least I always add that I should do something different and maybe outcome would be different. And it may be actually me failing to recognize the problem or being too lazy😶
it sucks but it is sad truth - I am a lazy person. I dont like to work really hard. I like clicking things and getting paid. I can also write some simple code.
Maybe this is why I am a programmer? So computer can do things for me?🙃

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This is an excellent reflexion. It applies to so many aspects of life, here and elsewhere. The story of the pancreatitis patients illustrates the situation brilliantly. 
I remember hearing a doctor say that it was frustrating to have to treat certain kinds of patients. He gave me some numbers of the trauma wing and how most of the budget and resources was used on motorcycle riders (most of them associated with crime).
*You gotta do what you gotta do*, they say. Everyone has to make the needed adjustments to be where they want to be.

So long as the resources are mine, this is what I practice and I wouldn't have anyone do it any other way. 

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>Time and energy are two of the most limited resources

Since i am writing this comment ,using my  time and energy for something good cause.This article is very relevant  to me because i have seen my senior elder spent whole life to get balance the living standard where Time is spent on earning money But Energy was gone .It means if he had energy and time then no enough money to sustain the living  and when he had money then no enough time and energy to enjoy the rest of the life peacefully. 
This is the fact of todays life .Addiction is good if it helps to balance your daily lifestyle as well make ones productive nor limited resources drainer.  

> In my opinion, the only thing we can consistently do for the entirety of our lives is change.

I think this is the most important message within this post, while the world around us telling "people never change" like a mantra. This authorize some to not even try to improve, but on the sideline they worsen. If the mantra woul'd be "improve or worsen" while known to be steady is the hardest, it might would be different. Even for addicts, they are not the same within time, they worse, and the next round just silencing the voice inside which draws attention to this fact. It's not fair telling them they are not changing while they actually are.