The ones who *allow* negative valence would be my guess. Who thrive on it, pull up their bootstraps and get busy embracing the disruption to turn it to gain. 

> I hope it helps me though :D

I have worried about your disclosing your therapy here, worried that it would add a layer of obstructive stuff to your "progress." But you don't disclose what was actually discussed at your sessions. So no need to answer this next question of mine - what kind of help do you think you need? A friend of mine recently recommended EMDR for me. I have only a small understanding of what that is. All I'd really like to do is wipe certain memories from my regular thinking. She says it would reduce their power. Reminds me of a poem I wrote a while ago:

*I wish I didn't
think of you everytime
I wash the dishes*

Are you still working? Have you begun your job search? The situation you are in would be depressing to *anyone!*