What are the most empowering questions we can ask today?  Asking new questions is the easiest way to take control of our lives and make our lives perfect RIGHT THIS MOMENT!

Over the last several weeks, many of the challenges and power thoughts I have experienced have been converted into a question here that I hope is helpful for all of us to think about along with further reflections and my thoughts.  Our goal in looking at these questions is a life full of the best answers and an elevated level of consciousness.

# New to the power of questions?

How often do we ask ourselves "what is wrong with me?"  What kind of answers do we get when we ask that?  We think of things like how we look, how we feel, how people treat us, and then we feel bad.  When we change our question to "What do I need to learn from this?" the answers pour in with helpful suggestions such as how to love everyone unconditionally, how to accept the world, and how to experience forgiveness.  With this in mind, let us consider the questions below!

# Questions 51 to 60!

51. **Why do we think life would be better if everyone agreed with us?** Why do we get mad when people disagree with us? Wouldn't life be so boring if everyone agreed with us?  I find it strange how easy it can be for me to get upset when someone disagrees with me and yet I also know that is what makes the world fun.  Asking these questions helps me get out of believing life would be better if everyone agreed with me and also helps with letting go of anger when people do disagree.
52. **How do we talk about being vegan or anything good we are doing with our health without offending those who aren't doing it?** How do we communicate what we are doing better in our lives without prompting defensiveness by others that will feel like they are wrong for not doing what we are?  I asked my mother in law this and she recommended giving only the information possible.  The next time someone says "Wow you have lost weight" I am planning to say thank you and see about directing the conversation to them instead of saying thank you along with a 10 minute explanation as to how I lost weight including my vegan diet, walking, and how we are destroying the planet eating meat.  The most appropriate time to mention these things seems to be when people have curiosity because then the message might go through.  Mostly when I have launched into these topics people just get defensive and turn further away than when the conversation started. 
53.  **Where do we get the courage to give people around us heartfelt compliments?**  I love giving a great compliment and find that I often have to be vulnerable first by asking for what I need before I am open to seeing the full beauty and grace of a person around me.  Why then is it so hard when I see someone and have a compliment ready to take the leap of faith in giving it?  Am I afraid the compliment will be rejected and I will look stupid?  Again :)
54. **What makes it safe to give a member of the desired sex a compliment?**  Why do we feel afraid to appreciate another person that might be similar to our partner?  Do we feel that the only safe way to be faithful is to keep a safe distance from anyone else we might be interested in sexually or are we scared of being vulnerable?  I have found the more I am able to notice the beauty and grace of all women, the more I am able to notice it about my wife which means it is a necessity I am open to giving any person, regardless of how attractive, a compliment.  I told one recent massage therapist I thought she was a beautiful partner after she shared about her life situation for a few minutes and I left the session feeling really good.
55. **Why do we get frustrated, upset, and angry when my friends and family are given challenges in life such as a diagnosis from the doctor or legal problems or relationships dissolving or health issues or addiction?**  Have we not often seen our best personal growth and return to gratitude through these very things?  How many of us have enlarged our spiritual life only through suffering?  Without that suffering, would we have been motivated to make the growth?  I am thinking about this today as someone I care about just received bad news on their test results from the doctor and I initially attempted to argue with it.  Then I reflected more and realized this challenge might be exactly the motivation the person needs to change their life for the better.  Maybe this diagnosis will be helpful for them the way my own health issues were helpful for me in finding motivation to try a different way of living?
56.  **Is it more selfish to let out a fart when other people are around or to hold it in and suffer the discomfort of bloating and repeated fart attempts held back which then is translated into being irritated and distracted with others?**  I went for holding the farts in high school and now I usually just fart as soon as I feel like except when in the car sometimes because I do not want any more false alarms from my family thinking my daughter needs a new diaper when really it was me that shit my pants.  Thank God for time alone when this question becomes irrelevant.
57. **What works to avoid getting tricked out of paying attention to this moment and completely becoming lost in the fantasy of tomorrow and yesterday?**  Is not today beautiful enough to enjoy as is?  Maybe it is harder to get tricked out if there is less judgement upon coming back?  What if being okay with a journey into fantasy and the exit from it together is the best?  I often get so excited about something like Steem and our future that I miss the beauty of all the things I wanted in life like a family.
58.  **How do we become the most generous?**  Where are the opportunities in our lives to truly give without self seeking motives?  I am not sure it is possible to separate generosity from self seeking because even in writing this with my hope to give you the tools to ask empowering questions today, I really just want to feel useful also. 
59. **Am I just being myself by default or do I have to learn and practice being who I am?**  Who am I anyway?  I am that I am!  How do I isolate times when I am definitely not being myself?
60. **Why worry about the future when so much is happening now?**  Where do we get the crazy idea that now is not good enough when now all we really have?  Our culture is one of never good enough which is spreading like a disease.  The more we get and have, the more it is all not enough.  I am grateful for a lot of spiritual experiences which have given me a path out.  Still, it is easy to forget and slip back into thinking if I just had one more witness vote I would be happier!

Thank you for reading these questions!  Would you like to share your answers in the comments because what you write might help someone else more than this post?

Love,
Jerry Banfield

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