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| author | jerrybanfields |
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| created | 2019-01-08 16:57:21 |
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| author | duchessrita |
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| json_metadata | "{"app":"musing/1.1","appTags":["love"],"appCategory":"love","appTitle":"Is it right for couples to discuss their family misunderstanding with their parents?","appBody":"<p>It's not so good to do that.</p><p>Before you guys got married, it was assumed that you two were responsible enough to live together, hence resolving your misunderstanding amicably on your own without bringing in a third party.</p><p>If you two can't handle your issues, then, you two shouldn't have gotten married in the first instance. </p><p>Marriage is not for babies. Bringing a third party to solve your problem between you and your partner is wrong, you might get wrong pieces of advise that may not work well for you and your partner. </p><p>Learn to settle your misunderstanding with your partner on your own.</p><p>For how long will you keep on involving your parents with your marital issues?</p><p>But you can, if it's life threatening; if it's not, please don't involve your parents.</p><p>✌</p>","appDepth":2,"appParentPermlink":"pkd2qxpaq","appParentAuthor":"jerrybanfields","musingAppId":"aU2p3C3a8N","musingAppVersion":"1.1","musingPostType":"answer"}" |
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| author | erikah |
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| json_metadata | "{"app":"musing/1.1","appTags":["love"],"appCategory":"love","appTitle":"Is it right for couples to discuss their family misunderstanding with their parents?","appBody":"<p>No, I don't see the relevance. A couple can clear up their misunderstandings by themselves, moo need to implicate parents. If they are old enough to be a couple, they are old enough to clear things up themselves.</p><p>Parents would only make it worse, they think they know everything and often force the younger generation to do what they want exactly because they think they have a solution for everything. This has broken up couples before, marriages were ruined, families separated because of the nosy parents. </p><p>Let them sort things out, that's the best solution. </p>","appDepth":2,"appParentPermlink":"pkd2qxpaq","appParentAuthor":"jerrybanfields","musingAppId":"aU2p3C3a8N","musingAppVersion":"1.1","musingPostType":"answer"}" |
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| author | hlezama |
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| json_metadata | "{"app":"musing/1.1","appTags":["love"],"appCategory":"love","appTitle":"Is it right for couples to discuss their family misunderstanding with their parents?","appBody":"<p> </p>\n<p>In my opinion, it is rarely a good idea to discuss marital affairs with one’s parents. In-laws are almost universally seen as adversaries. I don’t know of one culture where mothers-in-law are portrayed positively. Part of that negative image has to do with mother’s inability to give up their children to a spouse. They become competitors in a way. To declare any kind of internal fracture is almost always an invitation for disaster.</p>\n<p>Similar things can be said about fathers-in-law, although usually it is the female in-law image the one advertised as possessive instigators. I think that in all cultures children are parents’ most beloved possessions and even though we all know that a healthy and normal life cycle presupposes children’s separation and independence from their parents, no parent wants to see their children leave, especially to a man or women not entirely of their liking or who may make their children’s life miserable.</p>\n<p>Thus, telling about marital problems may just confirm parental fears and activate their defenses against the other party, thus aggravating the problem.</p>\n<p>Of course, there might be cases were spouses get along very well with their in-laws, in which case it might even be expected if not encouraged to tell them about their problems and most likely (since they know their children better) they will help solve them. In an ideal world that should be a common course of action. But we know that is rarely the case.</p>\n<p>It would be then a decision that will depend on the individual circumstances or the cultural/religious dictate or mandate (in case such consultations are stipulated as part of a spouse’s duties). It will up to every couple to decide whether or not telling third parties will improve or worsen the situation.</p>","appDepth":2,"appParentPermlink":"pkd2qxpaq","appParentAuthor":"jerrybanfields","musingAppId":"aU2p3C3a8N","musingAppVersion":"1.1","musingPostType":"answer"}" |
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| author | marlyncabrera |
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| json_metadata | "{"app":"musing/1.1","appTags":["love"],"appCategory":"love","appTitle":"Is it right for couples to discuss their family misunderstanding with their parents?","appBody":"<p>It will depend on three things: 1. relevance & nature of the misunderstanding, 2. frequency of consultation, and 3. purpose.</p>\n<p>Parents are like all other people: they have flaws and virtues. As any other people older than you, they’ve probably had more experiences than you in a lot of life circumstances. As any other people they may or may not love you, but as a general rule, parents care more about you than other people. As an adult, you must evaluate objectively if your parents (each of them) are reliable in terms of what you need from them. </p>\n<p>Having said that, before deciding on consulting parents, you should:</p>\n<p>1- Consider if they are wise enough in the matter (in your opinion), or at least if they are sound enough as to guide you so you can find a solution. Also, you should be careful so you won’t leave your partner or children in a situation of disadvantage before them, meaning you should never reveal what they have trusted you, unless it is an extreme situation (e.g. your son is doing drugs, robbed a house, kill somebody; or your partner has hurt you physically, etc…).</p>\n<p>2- Be your parents or anyone else, you must not go around asking for advice on private family matters. You’d be letting everybody in just too deep, and many of them would demand more information, or stick their noses in, or make you and your family the protagonists of either private or public discussions and arguments. That never ends up well; and far from solving any problem you initially had, you’d be facing many new ones.</p>\n<p>3- What do you need to consult your parents for? If it is just because you are insecure and afraid to make decisions you know you have to make, you should better see a therapist. Your parents probably are part of the problem, and you, as an adult, have to overcome it (them).If you think you need approval, you need to grow up already; your life is yours to live and to bear the consequences of the actions you take.</p>\n<p>All in all, our parents can be of great help, but you must make sure it is worth your risking your intimacy.</p>\n<p>I got married and pregnant when I was adolescent. I always kept my business to my little family of three. After more than twenty years, I have learned that sometimes you need the help and advice of a friend; sometimes your mother or father is that friend. One just needs good eye to know when is when.</p>","appDepth":2,"appParentPermlink":"pkd2qxpaq","appParentAuthor":"jerrybanfields","musingAppId":"aU2p3C3a8N","musingAppVersion":"1.1","musingPostType":"answer"}" |
| created | 2019-01-13 15:14:00 |
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| author | mcluz |
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| json_metadata | "{"app":"musing/1.1","appTags":["love"],"appCategory":"love","appTitle":"Is it right for couples to discuss their family misunderstanding with their parents?","appBody":"<p>No it's not right to me </p><p>Couples should be able to solve their differences without the involvement of a third party. Though if they do feel that they want to seek further counsel they shouldn't go and see a good marriage counselor because some parents may end up supporting the couple who is their child and we lead to further disaster </p><p>Couples should try to love and understand theirselves </p>","appDepth":2,"appParentPermlink":"pkd2qxpaq","appParentAuthor":"jerrybanfields","musingAppId":"aU2p3C3a8N","musingAppVersion":"1.1","musingPostType":"answer"}" |
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| json_metadata | "{"app":"musing/1.1","appTags":["love"],"appCategory":"love","appTitle":"Is it right for couples to discuss their family misunderstanding with their parents?","appBody":"<p>No it's not right to me </p><p>Couples should be able to solve their differences without the involvement of a third party. Though if they do feel that they want to seek further counsel they shouldn't go and see a good marriage counselor because some parents may end up supporting the couple who is their child and we lead to further disaster </p><p>Couples should try to love and understand theirselves </p>","appDepth":2,"appParentPermlink":"pkd2qxpaq","appParentAuthor":"jerrybanfields","musingAppId":"aU2p3C3a8N","musingAppVersion":"1.1","musingPostType":"answer"}" |
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